The Value of Solitude

“It’s surprising how loud silence can be. Especially when you’re not used to it.”

-David Mathis

This is my experience.

I’ve struggled with the idea and concept of being alone for a very long time. Often times God will take things and people away to reposition us to accept our blessings — to give us a better life, the one we are destined to live.

God made us for cycles and seasons, for routines and cadences.

The Bible supports the value of solitude in numerous of verses. Psalm 46:10 says, “Be still, and know that I am God.” It is much easier to “be still” in solitude. Lamentations 3:25–28 says, “The Lord is good to those whose hope is in Him, to the one who seeks Him; it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord. It is good for a man to bear the yoke while he is young. Let him sit alone in silence, for the Lord has laid it on him.”

Why get away?

We want to find new clarity, resolve, become initiative, or come back to our everyday life and double our efforts. Silence is simply searching the depths of our own souls, asking what our blind spots have become in the rush of everyday life. In the busyness, is there anything important I’m neglecting?  What needs refocusing?

The Benefits

Biblically speaking, solitude is a valuable practice. “Alone time” with God can allow God to examine us. It can be a time of knowing God more deeply, a time of strengthening, a time of refreshment, a time of sharing our deepest concerns with God, and a time of simply being with the One who formed us and loves us beyond our understanding.

Another benefit of periodic times of solitude is that such times allow us to refocus ourselves on what is truly important. It is good, every now and then, to “come away” from life’s daily distractions. We don’t want the “worries of this life” to choke out the Word (Mark 4:19). Rather, we want to spend valuable time listening to Him.

I thought this was important to share during this time as we are getting closer to the end of the year and as a college student, midterms and finals are peaking through the curtains. Know when to eliminate distractions and refocus. It will be an important tool to us as we close this semester.

Feeling stressed? Reach for your time of solitude and talk to God. He will listen.

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Finding Yourself and Your Purpose

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Finding Yourself + Your Purpose

Finding yourself is not a walk in the park, and it might take you longer than others to do so and that is completely okay. I really didn’t ‘try’ to find my purpose until I got into college and realized that life is really moving and I eventually have to be going somewhere. Figuring out who we are and what we want out of life can be challenging… especially if at any point you, like me, veered off the course of self-exploration and self-acceptance. Somewhere down the road, expect life to smack you in the face enough times to give you a wakeup call. I could go on and on about what lead me to finding myself and my purpose, but for the sake of this topic I’ll stick to the steps needed in order to do so.

accept yourself, above all else

Forgive yourself. Be kind to yourself. Celebrate your strengths. Remove your inner critic. It always easier said than done, right? I know. But all of these things are so necessary. Sometimes we can be so hard on ourselves that we forget to acknowledge how far we’ve come. Sometimes we try to reach a standard that someone else set for us. These things can be so toxic to your life if you don’t control it.

speak to your best self

Speak to your best self! You know, that boss ass bitch inside you! haha, bring her out and let her reign. Close your eyes and imagine yourself 10 years down the road. Skin glowing, your excelling in your career, you own your own house and car — whatever expectations  you have for yourself, speak them into existence.

be selfish

Find the balance between 50% selflessness, and 50% selfishness. Take your “me” time, know when you need it, and learn how to give it to yourself. I said it once and I’ll say it again, don’t let people manipulate you into thinking you’re being selfish for taking care of yourself. Ever. Figure out what energizes you, what makes you happy, how you connect to yourself. Don’t sacrifice those things – put them first. In the end, you can’t rely on anyone but yourself to bring you true happiness so stop waiting for anything or anyone outside yourself to try and start being the vessel that helps you receive it. Becoming extremely sensitive and selfish with yourself, time, and energy are essential to creating the person you’re meant to be.
do what you love, love what you do
You know that saying, “do what you love and you’ll never hate a Monday”? Sometimes we feel we don’t know what our purpose is when in fact, it’s lingering within us. To start, try everything. Start broad and ask yourself, “What do I want to experience on a daily basis?” It will help point you in the right direction. Be patient. When you find something you love doing, do your research. Find out what jobs are available out there for what you want to do and figure out how you can profit from your passion.
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I shared this with my friends a few days ago, and I really wanted to share it with you guys as well.

I’ve been waking up super early than usual since June and I’ve been asking God why. Like I’m talking about 6 AM type of early when I usually wake up say 9-10 AM. Along the way and through prayer, I’ve been asking God to help me walk in His purpose and live the life He wants me to live. Since then every morning I wake up, I get this urge to blog and write. Before I didn’t have time for it because of work, thus I wasn’t able to become consistent. Now I get up every morning and just write. I’m not tired or weary. I have all types of energy to get things done. Long story short, when you ask God for something and you continue to listen to Him and obey His word, He will give you the desires of your heart. Through this God shows me what my purpose is. Now I know what I want to do, is what He called me to do and that makes me happy.

If God woke you up today, that means you’re blessed and your purpose on this Earth isn’t fulfilled yet. Everyday you wake up, you’re one step closer to your dreams. Everything you do today (not tomorrow or the next day) creates your future. Remember that ✨


John 15:16

You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you.

Jeremiah 1:5

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations.


Also, know that you do not have to stick to one thing. You want to be a doctor and a painter, do that. You want to make music and work in retail, do that! You are unlimited. When you find your purpose, you will find happiness and your purpose will become your passion. When you find and accept yourself, you will gain peace and more understanding. Accepting who you are and knowing your values will help you to look at other people as mirrors. Meaning, you will be able to understand others better without having to having shift your mindset to theirs.

I hope these tips were helpful. #LetsChat! Comment below with your answers.

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#DOTW | What Are You Worth?

You have been bought and paid for by Christ, so you belong to him—be free now from all these earthly prides and fears. 1 Corinthians 7:23


Do you know your worth?

“… you are precious in my eyes … and I love you.” Isaiah 43:4

God says not only are you accepted; you’re valuable.

How much do you think you’re worth?  I’m not talking about your net worth; I’m talking about your self worth.  Don’t ever confuse your valuables with your value as a person.  You can be rich or poor but it has nothing to do with your value as a person.

Think for a moment about diamonds. They are one of the most precious items in creation. They are rare, beautiful and highly prized. But they are nothing compared to how God values us. Does God really think you and I are more precious than diamonds? We — who trip and fall and fail more often than we care to admit?

Don’t feel it?

Just think about this: We are so precious to God that He sent His only Son, Jesus, to this earth to die so you and I wouldn’t have to die because of the way we have messed up our lives with sin. Author David Eckman, in Becoming Who God Intended, pictures God explaining this to us: “My Son is dying for you because you are worth a Son to Me.”

Just think of it: God says, “You are worth a Son to Me”!

If you’ve ever doubted your own worth, or don’t know where to go from where you are, or you’re losing heart … then listen to Father God saying to you, “You are important enough to Me to justify the death of My Son. I want to have a close and intimate relationship with you.”

Pray this…

“God, I don’t feel very lovable. No matter how hard I try, I mess things up and end up feeling guilty and unlovable. But today I’m going to take a chance on You. I’m going to assume You really mean it when You say I am precious in Your sight, and You love me. I throw myself into Your arms. Thank You, thank You for a love that is bigger than all my mistakes. In Jesus’ Name, Amen. “

DOTW | Living an Unfiltered Life

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” – 1 Peter 3:3-4

We live in a filtered world. A world that no longer accepts reality and instead demands that women and men master the charade. We live in a world where people are self-absorbed and self conscious more than anything. We like to play roles that don’t fit who we truly are to match what’s expected of us. We live for pleasing others before ourselves and yearning for acceptance. Think of this question: who are you?

No but really, who are you? The real you — your unapologetic self. The one who is happy with the way he lives and how he views hisself. Did you forget that you were made in God’s image? (Gen. 1:27) If you’re having trouble figuring this out and need guidance, pray this:

Lord, help me live an authentic life. Help me see where my true beauty and worth lie – in being a child of the Most High God. Help me have the unfading beauty of a gentle spirit. Thank you for valuing me so much that you sent Jesus to die for me. Thank you that you take what is broken and ugly in me – my sin – and wash me white as snow. Help me live to glorify you, not myself.

In Jesus’ Name I pray, Amen.

 

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#DOTW | Stuck In The Waiting Place

But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience. Romans 8:25

Recently, I’ve been waiting for God to show up. I’ve got a few things on my list that need to be taken care of. I feel like I’ve been working so hard  and have been so patient that in no time, God will give me what I’ve been praying for. This is a rough place to be in, but patience is truly the key in this process.

When we’re feeling stuck in the waiting place, our society says, “Get out and do something about it.” You’ll be told to smile more, care less, be happy, and think good thoughts.

Good advice, but sometimes change is outside our control. Know that we’re not in charge, yet, GOD GIVES US CONTROL OF WHICH DIRECTION OF LIFE WE WANT TO TAKE.

You’ve probably got a list of things you want to see happen, just like me! Perhaps you are waiting for a job, for healing, for restoration in a relationship, or for wisdom to know where you should go next. Here’s a prayer to help.

Dear Lord, 

I know that I am always wrapped up in to what will happen next.Forgive me for how I have worried about this situation. Forgive me for doubting your love and care in my life. Forgive me for my discontentment as I wait for what happens next. Forgive me for being impatient.

In Jesus name’

Amen.

Although you prayed, know that God is right where you He always said He would be. He’s never left you and He will never forsake me. He hears all of your cries. In fact as David wrote in Psalm 139, He know your thoughts before you even think them. He knows exactly what is happening in your life and what will happen next. All things are in His control and nothing can happen apart from His will. Not a sparrow falls to earth without God willing it to and He know the number of hairs on my head. He is never surprised. Even about the issues in your life today. He know why this is happening and will use it for His glory and your good. ❤️