Tips for Growing Your Natural Hair!

Hey everyone! It’s June and I’m back with another post! If you’ve taken a look at my blog, some things have changed! I decided to go on head and change the theme around to fit my summer feel! Recently I went and got my hair straightened for the first time in 10 months!! So let’s call it a year. But wait, if you REALLY want to see my previous hair journey, read my last blog post on this topic (click here).


A Year’s Worth of No Heat….

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Growth, yes indeed. I was honestly so surprised to see my hair come out this long. Throughout the school year I had lots of temptation to put heat onto my hair, but I persevered! I did lots of protective styles, like wigs and slick-back ponytails.

Tip 1 = Protective Styling 

+ wigs, updo’s, crochet, braids, weaves, twist outs, etc. are all good styles to use in order to retain the no heat method

Helpful videos:

Tip 2 = Moisture

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22 inch loose wave wig with frontal

+ Keeping my hair moisturized was a key factor into my growth! When I wore wigs, I always sprayed water onto my hair while it was twisted underneath my wigs. I also used a mixture of olive oil, black castor oil, flax seed, and peppermint oil on my scalp!

+ Wigs are a great protective style! I prefer these more than weaves because you can take these off when you want! Plus, its easier to groom and keep up with your natural hair as well.

Tip 3 = Don’t Cut Your Split Ends…Yet!

+ There’s this myth that if you cut your split ends every once and a while, your hair will grow faster…. first of all, YOUR HAIR GROWS FROM YOUR ROOTS NOT YOUR ENDS! Your roots are the strongest part of your hair because it is where all your new growth is. I did not cut my ends for 10 months, not until I went to get my hair silk pressed! DO NOT GET ME WRONG, if you need to cut your ends because of split and dead ends please do so. Just watch how consistently you do it, because it isn’t always necessary.

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+ Faux locs are my favorite braid style for protective styling! They’re trendy and are very versatile. I was able to do updo’s (like pictured), two pony tails, half-up/half-down, and even a low bun.

+ I had these in for about 2 months, and they were great for when I went on vacation! No heat, takes about 0-10 minutes to style, and it leaves you temporarily stress free!

Tip 4 = WATER

+ WATER, WATER, & more WATER. As much as we need water to stay alive, your hair needs its nutrition as well. I’m not saying drench your hair, but spray your hair down every day before applying ANY product!

Tip 5 = Be Gentle

+ Be gentle on your hair! When you’re detangling your hair, make sure to ALWAYS start at the bottom and work your way up. And again, start with water! Keep your hair hydrated when detangling so its easier to detangle. When you start from the bottom, you’re preventing less breakage. Give yourself enough time to style your hair. Never do your hair when you’re in a rush, this tactic could possibly harm your hair since you are styling it in a fast manner because you have somewhere to be.

Helpful Videos:

Tip 6 = No Heat

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High ponytail with natural hair

+ I know this is a hard thing to do, but this truly does help. If you cant go as long as I did, try doing a one month no heat challenge and then build up from there.

+ As we all know, heat damages your hair. Whoever I defuse my natural hair, I used a cool setting. When I say I did not put heat to my hair for 10 months, that means no flat irons, no wand curlers, no blow dryer!

+ Try doing styles like high ponytails whether its with your natural hair or weave, low buns, and high buns.

Tip 7 = Products

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High bun with natural hair

+ What you put into your hair is just as important as how you style it. I used minimal product as possible, even when doing high buns.

+ Brands I love: Carol’s Daughter, As I Am, SheaMoisture, Garner Fructis, and Auntie Jackie’s.

+ Finding what works for you and your hair type is key! What works for me might not work for you and thats okay! Remember, not all high-end/expensive products are better than drug store/cheap products.

+ Use more conditioner and less shampoo. I typically go through 2-3 bottles of conditioner and 1 bottle of shampoo every 2 months. Use sulfate free products.

Alright guys, thats it for me and my helpful tips. I hope this was at least a bit helpful!

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Guest Post February | Self Love

Dear Self,

Don’t neglect the responsibility of nurturing yourself. Your existence and imprint as the woman you’re daily developing and blossoming becoming is irreplaceable, unmatchable, and needed. Love the heck out of yourself, just as God loves you.

 

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Author, Widny L.

I am beyond thrilled, ecstatic, and honored to have been given the opportunity to speak on self-love. Not to mention the fact that this is an area which I have neglected for years, and prevented myself from receiving/giving love, appreciation, embracement; and the relentless power of choosing myself even at the worst painful, confused, questionable moments in my life. I’ve learned and I am still in the process of understanding daily that self-love isn’t just embracing the good parts of you that you’re proud of or others have been fond of; but also taking the time out to love the gooey, flawed, authentic version of yourself and investing time into growing and changing anything about you that would be for the better.

Loving a false you will not heal nor bring out the best version of yourself. When you fall in love with the real you, you’re an unstoppable, unshakeable, undaunted woman in the face of anything that may come against you to question your identity as a woman and as a child of God.

I believe there are many ways a woman can cherish, speak words of affirmation about, and appreciate herself wherever she may find herself in life: in and out of seasons, in her highs and lows, the good the bad, and the ugly; or on valentine’s day as a single or with a significant other… etc. Her self-love should be shown, given as a gift to herself no matter what the circumstances are.

There are a couple of things that I have been implementing more and more of, to the degree that it has become a lifestyle. Why? Because I believe a healthy woman is a growing and fruitful woman. But here’s one thing I’d like to share that can be broken into multiple parts but we will only speak of as one:

Be proactive in your time alone.

It’s our responsibility to nurture the woman you are growing into. No one else can cultivate you the way YOU can. I’ve failed miserably countless of times when I neglected and robbed myself by not choosing to utilize my time alone to discover Widny (you may add your name here also), walk in purpose, practicing to perfect my craft, have a day off to rest, disconnecting myself from social media to properly refocus, investing my heart and mind into things or people that are healthy; and, most importantly, seeing myself the way God sees me. We lose a piece of ourselves ladies when we don’t empower and invest. It will be very difficult to celebrate the next woman who’s popping and flourishing in their lane without being a hater; becoming bitter and envious of her.

When you take care of yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, everything around you falls into its proper place. And ladies; correct me if I am wrong, but when you take care of yourself (and I am not referring to any materialistic possessions, titles, status), you glow differently; inner peace and joy becomes your GLOW.

Happy Valentine’s day, ladies!!!


To contact Widny, go to thewidster.com

Mini Target Haul | June 2017

 

Hi loves! So I did a mini shopping trip today at Target and picked up a few hair care products + a skin care essential.



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Miss Jessie’s® Coily Custard | This product is a lotion base and is best for fighting curly hair shrinkage! Also works well for people with kinky curls. You can also use this for wash n’ go styling, rod sets, and as a daily curl refresher. This product helps to turn hair with a tight curl pattern to a lose moisturized curl. I, myself have very tight curls. I haven’t tried this product yet but I’ve heard so many good things about it that I had to get it for myself!

FOR DAILY USE: Evenly distribute a capful or more to damp, freshly washed, conditioned and detangled hair. Spread a generous amount until you have good coverage. Make sure you scrunch the hair to encourage curl. To dry: either use a diffuser attachment to dry the hair or air dry and GO! To refresh curl dampen hair and apply a capful or more of Coily Custard and repeat steps above. [link to product here]

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Miss Jessie’s Pillow Soft Curls | This product works well if you want larger expanded curls, wash n’ go styling, and a quick dry styling lotion to achieve big, soft curly hair. One thing I like about this product is that it is so light on your hair! This product is definitely a go to if you want something that will enhance your curls, yet don’t want to use a lot of product. [link to product here]

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SheaMoisture Raw Shea Butter Restorative Conditioner & Shampoo | I love this! These products detangle, moisturize, repairs and restores lifeless dry, damaged or over-processed hair. The sea kelp inside provides mineral-rich nutrition which seals and smoothes hair cuticle.

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Argan oil inside restores shine while helping promote hair elasticity. Lastly, the shea butter deeply moisturizes while conditioning hair and scalp. I just started using these products to wash my hair, mainly because my hair can get very dry — especially in its natural state. Using the conditioner more frequently than the shampoo has made my hair extremely moisturized and I can see a significant increase in shine! [link to the shampoo here]

 

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Garnier Fructis Style Sleek & Shine Flat Iron Perfector Flexible Hold Straightening Mist | Get a 48H straight finish and heat protection for the perfect sleek style. This straightening mist with argan oil from Morocco protects your hair from the heat of your flat iron, while taming frizz to seal in smoothness and shine for a lasting, sleek finish. Haven’t tried this before, but I did want to add something to my heat protectant that would keep my hair super straight as well as protected.  [link to product here]

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Clear Aloe Vera Gel | The key to moisturized skin! Well, one of the keys at least. I usually go for an aloe vera masks (which is also a good alternative), but this time I went with this. Usually, this product is ideal for people with sunburns. You can use this product as a substitute for any type of oil you use on your skin. It is up™ to 97.7% pure aloe vera gel and provides fragrance-free, alcohol-free and dye-free cooling moisture therapy! This cooling and soothing, non-oily gel is absorbed quickly and helps skin retain moisture and promote healing for irritated skin. I also hear you can use this product as a hair mask. I’ll have to look more into that! [link to product here]



That’s it for my mini Target haul. I’m trying my best to find a good long term hair care regimen that won’t do so much damage on my hair when I flat iron it on my own + products that will make my curls poppin’ when I want to wear it in its natural state! Have you tried any of these products before? Let me know in the comment section below! I’d love to hear your feedback. Thanks for reading! 🌻

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My Natural Hair Journey // Wig Talk

I’ve been so busy with work, but I’m back! I planned on writing this once summer break first came around but here I am 😊  This will be one of my longer posts, but I hope you guys enjoy it! I’ll be sharing what I used to do to my hair versus what I do now, the protective styles I use while away at school, and also my plan for the summer to help with my hair’s growth! I’ll also include some tips from my natural hair frenzy friend Amber (@__ambuhh).

INTRO

tumblr_ol24n3KB3c1v4nzkvo1_400My hair used to be so long, yet thin before college. I used to get perms in middle school, and one day decided to transition to natural hair. Did I consider the big chop? Sometimes. I could never get myself to do it because 1) my patience is veeerrryyy low and 2) I don’t think short natural styles look right on me sadly.  Around my freshman year of college, I would wear sew-ins with minimal leave out. Although these are very common and considered a protective style to some, my hair tended to break off because of its constant usage. I always wanted to try something different, but I couldn’t see myself looking right with any other protective styling. Being three hours away from home didn’t help either. I didn’t really trust any of the women on campus with my hair so I would go home when I needed to get my hair done, which I wasn’t that consistent with because distance became a problem and school sometimes got in the way of me going home.

img_0064Sometime in November 2015, I got my natural hair cut and styled. Here’s a pic of what that looked like. I was going for a slanted bob or whatever you’d like to call it! I really loved this hairstyle. I kept it for about a month or two, then suddenly my hair all seemed to look the same length.  During 2015-2016 I had so many different styles. I wore my natural hair for about 4 months but of course I got tired of it. Then, I went straight back to weave! For the guys reading, women love weave because:

  1. you can put heat on weave all you want and not your natural hair, which if you do can cause heat damage
  2. its more versatile if you don’t have long hair
  3. its a protective style

img_0069The list goes on. Weave, if you maintain it and can be consistent, CAN help your hair grow. I tried braids, crochet braid protective styling, and then for the first time, tried wigs (June 2016)… which I fell in love with! It was hard finding a good wig even though I wasn’t so educated on them. My first stop was the hair store by my house. I got a brown bob wig that had blonde highlights all through it. This was my very first wig and I loved it. The only downfall about this wig was that it wasn’t a full lace wig where it would give me more room to part, and the insufficient parting space made it look less natural. It lasted for about 2 months and then started to get old and I started to hate the way it looked. Throughout the summer, I more interested in wigs and decided to educate myself more with Youtube videos (Youtube will become your best friend when you want to learn something on your own). Along my Youtube binge watch, I stumbled on videos that explained how to make your own wigs and tried to do that. Once I got the hang of wigs and became more educated, it became my protective hairstyle throughout college.


PROTECTIVE STYLING THROUGH COLLEGE

Once my sophomore year hit, I wore a curly wig I made(August 2016). Which was also the first wig I made and I have to say, I was proud with how it turned out. I did a lot of research on what weave to use and considering I don’t wear my weaves longer than 2 months, I didn’t want to buy super expensive hair.  I also didn’t want to use expensive weave considering it was my first hand-made wig. So I went with an Aliexpress brand. Aliexpress does sell some nice quality weaves but I do say, DO YOUR RESEARCH. You can also search Youtube for Aliexpress hair reviews. I’ve heard some terrible horror stories with buying weaves/extensions from Aliexpress. On a scale from 1 to 10, 10 being top quality, I’d give this brand a 7. Reasons being the curls came out amazing but the shedding got crazy after 2 months. These aren’t the best examples, but here’s some pics. (If you need more info on this hair, comment below!)

After a few months, I did another wig with straight hair from Aliexpress. On a scale from 1 to 10, this hair would definitely be an 8 but the frontal was definitely a 6. The hair straightened so well, but when washed, the frontal became wavy. I wasn;t so fond of that considering I ordered straight hair. Here’s some pics.

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 UNDER THE WIG

Now unfortunately, I can’t braid to the scalp. I’ve tried billions of times but I just can’t get the hang of it. Braiding to the scalp is the preferred way to maintain your hair under a wig, but if you’re like me then a method I would recommend is twists.

PREPARATION

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What you need: shampoo & conditioner, leave-in conditioner, a wide tooth shower comb or hair pick, hair clips, bobby pins, and a towel 😊  I’d also like to add that during the school year (9 months), I choose not to put any type of heat to my hair.

*shampoo every 3 weeks; condition every 2 weeks

  1. While showering, wash your hair thoroughly with your choice of shampoo 2-3 times. I use Pantene Curl Perfection.
  2. Lather your hair with conditioner.
  3. Part your hair into four sections and secure the sections with hair clips.
  4. Detangle your hair with a wide tooth shower comb or hair pick.
  5. If you choose to deep condition, leave the conditioner in your hair for about 20 minutes while you take your shower. Next, just wash the conditioner out and towel dry.
  6. Once out the shower, use leave-in conditioner (I use Suave  Professionals Keratin Heat Defense Leave-in Conditioner) or some type of curl enhancer to bring extra moisture to your hair.
  7. This part is simple. I wont tell you how to part your hair for this or how small your twists should be but I do say, the smaller the twist the better your hair will lay flat under your wig. Simply part your hair into small section and start twisting two strand twists all through your hair.
  8. Next, bobby pin the twists down to your head as flat as possible.
  9. Repeat these instructions every two weeks exempting the usage of shampoo, although on the third week use it.

In between those two weeks I used coconut oil, jojoba oil, and other oils to moisturize my hair.


RESULTS | SUMMER 2017 HAIR GROWTH REGIMEN

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I wish I planned accordingly for this blog post. Maybe I’d have better pictures to feature 🤦🏾‍♀️ but here’s how lengthy my hair has gotten by using my protective styling through a whole year of college! This photo was taken hours after I got my first silk press for the summer. I’m so happy at how far I’ve came. Before my sophomore year I vowed to not put any heat to my hair whatsoever and I stuck to it! During the first week of summer break, I decided to come up with my own hair growth regimen. Here’s my plan:

I wear protective styling throughout the school year and focus more on my natural hair during the summer by getting silk presses every two weeks and a trim every month.  Between every two weeks, I won’t put any heat onto my hair until I go to the salon and get it professionally done. This way, I can really work with my natural hair stylist to focus on the strength and growth of hair. So far I’ve gotten two silk presses and have seen significant STRENGTH in my hair. My curls are so much more bouncier than before. For the growth aspect, I’ve come up with my own growth oil concoction which you can also make on your own!

img_0138I went to my local beauty supply store and created this. You can use whatever oils you want but here’s what I bought:

  • an applicator bottle
  • coconut oil
  • Jamaican black castor oil
  • vitamin E oil
  • olive oil
  • argon oil

Now, all you have to do is put it all into the applicator bottle! EASY! I put a few drops onto my scalp before I wrap my hair for bed every two nights, just so that my hair doesn’t get so sticky and drenched by the oil considering my hair is straight. This works amazing, especially when you don’t want to pay money for hot oil treatments or don’t necessarily like having a thousand oils and not knowing what to do with them. You can also use this for your own hot oil treatment. To end this post, here’s some tips and tricks from my friend Amber!


TIPS AND TRICKS FOR HEALTHY HAIR BY AMBER

 GROWTH TIPS
  • Drink lots of water!!!
  • Stay away from the flat iron
  • Protective styles with out putting heat on your hair
  • Oil you scalp at every other night before bed with preferably a natural oil (coconut oil or Jamaican black castor oil)
  • Another oil is the main choice growth oil which is a bit pricey but worth it.
  • Oil your ends, they are the most important part of your hair, just as important as the new growth!!!!
WRAPPING YOUR HAIR AT NIGHT

Pineapple Method

  1.  Oil your hair and maybe out a little leave in conditioner on your hair
  2.  Take a SATIN hair tie and wrap it around your hair once so the hair is sitting on the top of your head
  3. Wrap your hair with a SATIN scarf/bonnet or make sure to sleep on a satin pillowcase

Overnight Twist Out/Braid Out

  1. Take your favorite styling cream ( personally a little leave in conditioner or the curl enhancing smoothie works the best )
  2. Part your hair neatly and braid or twist in as many as you want. ( big braids can cause wavy hair while the smaller the braids and the more you concentrate as moisturize a section the more defined your curls will be in the morning
  3. Lastly still wrap your hair with a satin scarf or bonnet or sleep on a satin pillowcase
AMBER’S FAV PRODUCTS/TOOLS
  • Organic coconut oil
  • Olive oil eco styler gel
  • Gorilla snot edge control
  • Aussie moist conditioner (as a leave in! And it’s super cheap!)
  • curl enhancing smoothie by SheaMoisture
  • Jamaican black castor oil leave in conditioner by SheaMoisture
  • Denman brush
  • Tangle teaser
  • Wide tooth combs
  • Boar bristle brush
  • My fingers( for finger combing 😊)

If you got to this point, thanks for reading all of the way through! I know it was a lot to read but there’s definitely some good information in here. Make sure to hit up my dear friend for more natural hair care tips and you can always contact me on any inquiries with my wigs! By the way, I heard the Eco Styler company has come out with a new gel with FLAXSEEDS! I’ll be buying this soon and doing a review on it! Thanks for tuning in! Until next time…

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