Finding Yourself and Your Purpose

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Finding Yourself + Your Purpose

Finding yourself is not a walk in the park, and it might take you longer than others to do so and that is completely okay. I really didn’t ‘try’ to find my purpose until I got into college and realized that life is really moving and I eventually have to be going somewhere. Figuring out who we are and what we want out of life can be challenging… especially if at any point you, like me, veered off the course of self-exploration and self-acceptance. Somewhere down the road, expect life to smack you in the face enough times to give you a wakeup call. I could go on and on about what lead me to finding myself and my purpose, but for the sake of this topic I’ll stick to the steps needed in order to do so.

accept yourself, above all else

Forgive yourself. Be kind to yourself. Celebrate your strengths. Remove your inner critic. It always easier said than done, right? I know. But all of these things are so necessary. Sometimes we can be so hard on ourselves that we forget to acknowledge how far we’ve come. Sometimes we try to reach a standard that someone else set for us. These things can be so toxic to your life if you don’t control it.

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Speak to your best self! You know, that boss ass bitch inside you! haha, bring her out and let her reign. Close your eyes and imagine yourself 10 years down the road. Skin glowing, your excelling in your career, you own your own house and car — whatever expectations  you have for yourself, speak them into existence.

be selfish

Find the balance between 50% selflessness, and 50% selfishness. Take your “me” time, know when you need it, and learn how to give it to yourself. I said it once and I’ll say it again, don’t let people manipulate you into thinking you’re being selfish for taking care of yourself. Ever. Figure out what energizes you, what makes you happy, how you connect to yourself. Don’t sacrifice those things – put them first. In the end, you can’t rely on anyone but yourself to bring you true happiness so stop waiting for anything or anyone outside yourself to try and start being the vessel that helps you receive it. Becoming extremely sensitive and selfish with yourself, time, and energy are essential to creating the person you’re meant to be.
do what you love, love what you do
You know that saying, “do what you love and you’ll never hate a Monday”? Sometimes we feel we don’t know what our purpose is when in fact, it’s lingering within us. To start, try everything. Start broad and ask yourself, “What do I want to experience on a daily basis?” It will help point you in the right direction. Be patient. When you find something you love doing, do your research. Find out what jobs are available out there for what you want to do and figure out how you can profit from your passion.
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I shared this with my friends a few days ago, and I really wanted to share it with you guys as well.

I’ve been waking up super early than usual since June and I’ve been asking God why. Like I’m talking about 6 AM type of early when I usually wake up say 9-10 AM. Along the way and through prayer, I’ve been asking God to help me walk in His purpose and live the life He wants me to live. Since then every morning I wake up, I get this urge to blog and write. Before I didn’t have time for it because of work, thus I wasn’t able to become consistent. Now I get up every morning and just write. I’m not tired or weary. I have all types of energy to get things done. Long story short, when you ask God for something and you continue to listen to Him and obey His word, He will give you the desires of your heart. Through this God shows me what my purpose is. Now I know what I want to do, is what He called me to do and that makes me happy.

If God woke you up today, that means you’re blessed and your purpose on this Earth isn’t fulfilled yet. Everyday you wake up, you’re one step closer to your dreams. Everything you do today (not tomorrow or the next day) creates your future. Remember that ✨


John 15:16

You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you.

Jeremiah 1:5

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations.


Also, know that you do not have to stick to one thing. You want to be a doctor and a painter, do that. You want to make music and work in retail, do that! You are unlimited. When you find your purpose, you will find happiness and your purpose will become your passion. When you find and accept yourself, you will gain peace and more understanding. Accepting who you are and knowing your values will help you to look at other people as mirrors. Meaning, you will be able to understand others better without having to having shift your mindset to theirs.

I hope these tips were helpful. #LetsChat! Comment below with your answers.

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Discover My Blog: The Liebster Award

 

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Pic mail! Haha, this is amazing! About four days ago, I was nominated for the Liebster Award by heysinderella. She’s such an amazing blogger, and I am honored to be nominated for this award. She gave me a few questions, so here’s my answers.

1. When it comes to blogging, what are you most passionate about?
I’m most passionate about fashion! Although I am taking my time in this area, it is somewhere I aspire to excel in my blogging career. I think there’s so many brands and alternative clothing out here that a lot of people aren’t aware of and I want to be able to put that information out there. I also want to feature retail and beauty entrepreneurs on my blog (stay tuned!)
2. Do you consider blogging an additional career move, or just a personal interest?
Oh, definitely an additional career move. It’s something I want to include in my everyday life. This is definitely a lifestyle for me. I wouldn’t ever put blogging on the back burner for something else.
3. What kind of content do you love create?
I looooove to create makeup/hair hauls. I love finding what works for me at affordable prices and sharing it with others. I have a couple skin care posts up, check them out!
4. Are there blogging genres different from yours that you’d like to try out?
Nope. My blog genres are Fashion, Beauty, and Lifestyle. All pretty well-rounded considering what I feature on my blog. Those all intertwine with my life. If there’s any genre I’d like to get into, it is Traveling and Food. I have a Food Blog, but it’s still under tight construction!
5. What is your ultimate goal in life?
My ultimate goal in life is to empower women and start my own clothing line! I do believe it is what God called me on this Earth to do. When you feel passionate about something, you have more drive and ambition to complete these tasks than doing anything else.
6. What do you plan to accomplish from your blog?
My upcoming goals for my blog include reaching 500 followers and 8,000 readers by the end of the year, and to have about 2 or 3 Travel posts next summer!
7. If you could tell your readers one thing, what would you tell them?
It would definitely be to follow your dreams. When you do that, you’ll find that THAT is where your happiness lies. Always follow your heart. Block out all negativity and do you boo! Literally! You’ll always fall behind trying to be someone you’re not. Also, invest in yourself. Whether you’re a doctor, painter, makeup artist, etc., invest in your craft.
8. Have you ever thought about creating video content? Why or why not?
Actually, yes! It is in the works as I type, haha. My Youtube channel will launch before this year is over, so please be on the look out!
9. What are your goals before age 30?
I have a lot actually, but my top 5 are: collab with brands/bloggers, get married, start my own clothing line, own my own house, and pay off my college loans!
10. If you could collab with a few bloggers, who would they be?
OMG, definitely my girl heysinderella! I’ve known her since high school and we’ve always clicked, but I didn’t know that we had SO much in common when it comes to blogging and becoming entrepreneurs. In our city, I feel like we could use more people who want to write, blog, and create their own business.
Now this is the part where I get to nominate my fave bloggers!
Mellie King, creator of mellieking
Markesia Barron, creator of markesiabarron
Ashley Craddock, creator of Ashley Avenue
Makayla Mcafee, creator of fashionablykay
Questions for my nominees:
1. Who are you and why do you blog?
2. Which celeb would you love to interview?
3. What is your favorite genre when blogging and why?
4. What is your dream job?
5. What/who inspires you the most to write?
6. How did you start blogging?
7. What would be your ideal working environment?
8. Where would you like to be in blogging five years from now?
9. How would you describe your blogging style?
10. What do you find the most frustrating aspect of blogging?
Again, I just want to thank everyone who has supported me thus far. You guys are incredible. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
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Relationship Closure // Is It Really Worth Getting?

tumblr_o0n0uldF5y1rhp7f2o1_500.jpgHey ladies. Let’s talk about relationship closure for a minute. Too many of us have been in relation[situation]ships that didn’t work out as planned. You meet someone, you start spending lots of time with them and confiding in them, then next thing you know, that really amazing dream is over. Don’t think you’re alone, I have been in the same position. We all think we need “closure” after a relationship or hookup ends, but is it the best thing for you? What type of closure should you get?

In theory, closure is supposed to provide us with a breakup cure-all. If we know what exactly went wrong and what we can improve upon, then we can close the door on that past relationship/hookup/whatever and MOVE ON. But do you really think that after you get the whole run down of how things went left, you’ll be able to effectively move on? The key word is EFFECTIVELY. No running back, no baggage, no stress? Let me tell you a piece of my story, maybe you can relate. I’ll try and keep this A/B/C clear for you all.

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“High School Daze”

You know those relationships with potential, but never go as far as you predicted? This is the one. After my first relationship ended, we didn’t talk much about all that went wrong. ‘Frank’ had cheated, yes. A player, yes. But somehow, someway, I got over him and was able to forgive. And I’ll tell you how — I began to talk to someone else, thus, my second relationship happened. Believe it or not, me and Frank are cool ’till this day and don’t revisit the past when we talk. We never talked on a daily basis or hung out, we mainly saw each other at friendly functions. I think that was how I knew we were both over it. The key to my healing was time, space, and a new distraction. My closure in this situation was accepting. No, we didn’t sit down and talk about what happened, I CHOOSE to move on and there WASN’T any resentment. Yes, in the beginning I was upset and thought that I wasn’t enough for him, but God had other plans for me. God let this new man come into my life and I accepted the gift with open arms.

Healing does take time. Let’s take a look at what some of my lovely sisters from #UnashamedBloggers have to say about beneficial closure:

@Shavahn D. says, “I didn’t get closure in my last relationship, and it still hurts. I think that closure is good because you’ll get a clearer understanding as to why it didn’t work. You’ll also know what to do differently in your next relationship.” 

@Tameka C. says, “most of my relationships never have closure. Closure can be good for understanding behaviors and words that contribute to the falling of a relationship. You can reflect on what to do and what not to do in your next relationship. However, sometimes closure is no answer. You just have to do the internal work and reflect on your own.”

@Shenica N. says, “closure helps you to release baggage. If the door is still cracked/opened, then sometimes the chapter hasn’t ended. Old wounds often prevent you from being the BEST you. In a relationship, I am of the opinion that you have to close the door before opening another. In some cases, the closure shows up in the form of ceased communication. Although it’s very unhealthy and you’re stuck with a lot of unanswered questions, you can still move on because the relationship has severed/ceased. If that makes sense!” 

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“The History Makers”

Let’s move on to the second relationship. This one is for anyone who’s ever been in a relationship with someone you fell in love with, and it unexpectedly took a sharp left. ‘Blake’ and I have so much history and loved each other to death.  Along the way, Blake started to put me in messy situations I wanted no parts of. The damage became incurable. We forgave each other for everything, talked about what went wrong with no possible solutions, and went on like nothing ever happened and THAT was our problem. We were perfect at forgiving and forgetting, but not actually fixing. One day, I just decided to let go. I had to face the baggage I was carrying because it was so unhealthy. No, it wasn’t something I wanted to do, I just knew it had to be done. In all of those arguments and talks, I never got the closure I needed, just a blanket to cover up the mess that was there.

No, I didn’t leave him, but I took some time away from him to be able to heal. In this case, trust, honesty, and communication were our biggest issues… and the time away built the bridge we were missing for all of those components. We talk about our progress here and there, even saw each other every blue moon, and it works. It’s gotten so good to the point where we planned to take some us time, without cell phones and any exterior communication, just so that we can focus on each other for a bit. He knows that I am not capable of being in that full time relationship with him right now, nor can I give him the attention he wants as I’m trying to heal and focus on myself. I think the most beautiful part about it all is that he understands and accepts it. Here’s what I’ve learned:

  • Self-love is SO IMPORTANT. Without it, you won’t be able to overcome situations confidently and correctly. Without it, you can become blind to the truth and in some cases, the truth will be right in front of your face or your intuition.
  • Communication and trust are a TOP PRIORITY in any relationship! It is the foundation of the relationship and determines how far it will go. You can’t throw neither of these components under the bus and expect things to work out.
  • Space is important. Time to yourself is important. Mental health is important. Your emotional well being is important. Don’t let social media fool you into thinking that the moment you take time for yourself, you’re selfish.
  • Closure can come in the form of many things. It doesn’t necessarily have to be two people sitting down and figuring out where they went wrong. 
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“The Hookup”

So here’s the last scenario I’m throwing in. The Hookup. No, this wasn’t like a one night stand type thing, but more like a little fling that became more than you expected. Let’s talk about ‘Josh’ for a minute. Josh had a thing for me but I never took him serious until he started to invite me over. To be honest, I didn’t really like him in the beginning (that’s how it all starts), but it was something about him that drew me closer. Long story short, we grew feelings over time for each other but I still was in love with my ex at the time and didn’t want to lead Josh on. So I cut him off shortly after and he understood why. A year passes, I’m single again, and Josh finds out. At this point, I was willing to give Josh a chance. We were consistently talking and seeing each other, and the next thing I know he’s not answering my calls or texts, etc. It was kind of devastating. I thought everything was going good, I was finally getting over my ex, and it all just stopped.

I was very confused and needed to know what his deal was. Believe it or not, I never got the chance to speak to him about the situation. I saw him on campus sometimes and would just completely ignore him. Before you ask, yes — there was another girl. I found out on his social media the summer following that school year and you know what… it hurt a bit. Of course I had feelings for him, but not enough to let it affect the way I was living. I wasn’t upset because of the new girl, I was upset because of the simple fact that I confided in someone who just got up and left without an explanation. And I’m sure some of you can attest to what that feels like.

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BEING THE ONE TO WALK AWAY

Ladies, lets spill some tea shall we? Don’t ever think walking away is an easy task. Through my experiences with men, I realized that if you have self-love, nothing and I mean NOTHING can break you as a woman. You know how much you are worth, and you add taxes as you level up in life! Being a boss ain’t easy, but very doable. And believe it or not, you will attract a man who sees how independent you are and wants to cater to your every need.

There are guys out there that fit your standards. Don’t think you have to change a man to get what you want out of life and your relationship. Rule number one: you don’t chase love, let it find you. I promise it is the most beautiful thing. If we back track to scenario two, I told you guys how I left and things got better for us. If it is real, and it is in God’s plan that the relationship is supposed to work out, IT WILL.

“She is everything a man will desire and need,

as well as everything a boy will not understand,

value and take for granted.” – unknown

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YAY TO 2K!!!! + GIVEAWAY!

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I just want to say THANK YOU to everyone supporting me! Without the support, I wouldn’t have the strength to keep blogging! It’s been a rough journey. There were definitely moments where I became lazy, didn’t want to get up and blog, or even get out of bed. Yet, God and my support system got me out of that much every single time. You guys inspire me and push me to become better at my craft 🌺

THAT NEW, NEW

More fashion posts are on the way! I’ve been holding back on this category for so long, simply because it is a category I want to really excel in. I want to give you good content, with high quality pictures, with the inside scoop on really good quality brands. I don’t want to hold back on this one.

More advice/self-experience posts coming your way as well. I want to be able to be more open about life and the way it works with you guys. I want all millennial to know that they aren’t alone and that there are people out there going through the same things.

More travel posts are in the looks! I’d give away my first location, but that would spoil the surprise! Sharing my experiences with others has always been a passion of mine. I’d like to do at least two every year (noting this in my goals list).

Since I’m from Cleveland, I also want to give this beautiful place more exposure. I want to give you guys the what’s hot and what’s not around my town! There are so many hidden gems in Cleveland that no one really knows about! I want to interview local businesses in my area and work with local artists, stylists, photographers, etc. Just wait on it.

Luke 12:31

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and He will give you everything you need.

 



GIVEAWAY!!

So as part of my celebration, I want to do a giveaway — my very first one! About a month ago, I did a poll on Twitter asking what should be the prize, and you guys voted for the Alex and Ani gift card! This giveaway will be held on Twitter and here are the rules:

  1. follow @thestyleisland
  2. must reply to the post with your answer
  3. retweet the post

STARTS JUNE 29, 2017 10AM EST

ENDS JULY 12, 2017 12PM EST

USA ONLY

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10 Detox Water Recipes to Cleanse Your Body!

Hey #StyleIslandBloggers, recently I’ve been trying to turn my life around. I’m becoming more productive, handling my business, learning self-love tactics, and just learning to control my happiness and faith. With that, being able to make healthy choices when it comes to what goes into my body has been a top priority for me. I’ve seen lots of people try detox teas and waters, and it’s been sparking my interest for a while. Although I do want to try the teas, detox water became a quick and easy thing for me to do CONSISTENTLY.

The motto? CLEAR SKIN AND FLAT TUMMY ALL SUMMER ’17! I’ve done some research and have decided to share some the recipes I’ve been using! Take notes people. These will change your life! Now I’m not a fan of flavored water, but the taste of detox water has definitely grown on me. For one, it is less flavored than flavored water. Two, there’s no artificial sweeteners. And three, it tastes much more refreshing and infused with all of the fruits’ and vegetables’ goodness. Let’s get into it!


WAKE UP REFRESHER

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WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

  • Slices of grapefruit
  • Mint leaves
  • Water

This detox water is sooo refreshing. You just mix the grapefruit and mint leaves with your ice and water, put it in the fridge overnight, and drink it before you start your day! Everyone loves a good tall glass of water in the morning — why not make it more enjoyable? Health benefits: Grapefruit aids in blood pressure and heart health. Mint is a great appetizer or palate cleanser, and it promotes digestion.

BEFORE/DURING WORK OUT

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WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

  • Slices of watermelon
  • Slices of cucumbers
  • Mint leaves
  • Aloe Vera Juice
  • Water

This detox is hydrating and adds nutrients back into your body while working out. All you need is a dash of aloe vera juice, nothing major. Health benefits: Watermelon has significant levels of vitamins A, B6 and C, lots of lycopene, antioxidants and amino acids. Aloe vera juice aids in hydration, heartburn relief, and clear skins. Mint, as said before, promotes digestion. Cucumbers contain multiple B vitamins, including vitamin B1, vitamin B5, and vitamin B7 (biotin). B vitamins are known to help ease feelings of anxiety and buffer some of the damaging effects of stress.

POST WORKOUT

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WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

  • Cut up pieces of pineapple
  • THIN slices of lemon
  • Slices of oranges
  • Water

Very refreshing. This is definitely one of my top five’s. I do this one a lot, even when I don’t workout. Yet, it is extremely helpful when you do. This detox water brings electrolytes back into your body after your workout and even has a very citrusy taste. Health benefits: Pineapples aid in immune system support, eye health, and bone strength. Get this, oranges have a staggering 130% of your vitamin C needs for the day! The health benefits of lemon are due to its many nourishing elements like vitamin C, vitamin B6, vitamin A, vitamin E, folate, niacin thiamin, riboflavin, pantothenic acid, copper, calcium, iron, magnesium, potassium, zinc, phosphorus and protein.

BEFORE BEDTIME

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WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

  • Slices of lemon
  • Slices of lime
  • Dash of aloe vera juice
  • Water

This detox water will be super helpful before you go to bed, considering you will be getting a full night’s rest without any water. The aloe vera juice will keep you hydrated through the night, and the lemon and lime will give you a nice citrusy taste before bed.  (Health benefits are/will be stated in previous/future recipes.)

DURING/AFTER DINNER

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WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

  • Slices of kiwi
  • Blueberries
  • Mint leaves
  • Water

This is perfect for during/after your dinners because it will help reduce bloating with the mint leaves and the kiwi. Plus the blueberries and mint combo is delicious! Health benefits: kiwi is a high source of vitamin C and folate, protects DNA damage, boots your immunity, supports weight loss, and improves digestive health.

GOT A SWEET TOOTH?

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WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

  • Sliced apples
  • Sliced oranges
  • Cut up pieces of strawberries
  • Water

We all have a sweet craving during the day, right? This is just for that! The orange/apple/strawberry infusion gives the water such a sweet taste — very pleasing to the taste buds. I’m not going to state any health benefits here because we’ve pretty much covered these fruits already!

LUNCH TIME

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WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

  • Slices of lemon
  • Cut up pieces of strawberries
  • Mint leaves
  • Water

This one is perfect for during your lunch. It’s very tasty and the mint makes it extremely refreshing. Personally, I’m not a big strawberry eater. but I’ll definitely put it into my water! Health benefits: strawberries have lots of folate, potassium, manganese, dietary fiber, and magnesium. It is also extremely high in vitamin C! (I’m pretty sure we’ve gotten the gist of the mint and lemons).

TUNNEL VISION

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WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

  • Mint leaves
  • Blueberries
  • Cut up lavender plant
  • Water

Very photogenic and aesthetically pleasing — this one is perfect if you’re having a hard time focusing on projects, on the job, etc. I drink this while blogging actually. It does give me a sense of “tunnel vision” or focus so that I’m concentrating on what is in front of me. Health Benefits: Lavender aids in its ability to eliminate nervous tension, relieve pain,  enhance blood circulation and treat respiratory problems.

TO CALM A STORM

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WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

  • Chopped up lemongrass leaves
  • Sliced lemons
  • Blueberries
  • Water

This detox water is perfect when you need something to calm you down, having anxiety, stress, etc. Maybe you’re about to take a big test and need something to calm your nerves. This is your go-to. Health benefits: lemongrass is a plant. The leaves and the oil are used to make medicine. Lemongrass is used for treating digestive tract spasms, stomachache, high blood pressure, convulsions, pain, vomiting, cough, achy joints (rheumatism), fever, the common cold, and exhaustion. Blueberries aid in  warding off heart disease. The blueberry’s fiber, potassium, folate, vitamin C, vitamin B6 all aid in heart health.

STARVATION KILLER

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WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

  • Sliced cucumbers
  • Sliced apples
  • Sliced limes
  • Water

Hungry, but you can’t eat yet? This is perfect if you’re ever on a timed schedule and say you have a set time to eat at 6pm and it’s 5pm. Or maybe if you’re going on a dinner date in a few and need something for your stomach to wait out the time. I love green apples, but of course you can use red if that’s your preference. Health benefits: limes help with weight loss, skin care, improved digestion, relief from constipation, eye care, and treatment of scurvy, piles, peptic ulcer, respiratory disorders, gout, gums, urinary disorders, etc. Apples are extremely rich in important antioxidants and dietary fiber.


All of these great recipes are NOT time consuming, and I think that’s what I love most. Of course you can do any of these fruits, leaves, and vegetables alone with just water. Some other simple ones I’ve done are lemon and oranges, strawberries and mint, and kiwi just by itself. Get you a water bottle, maybe one with an infuser, and you’re all set!

WHY IS DETOXING SO GREAT?

  • Detox drinks are great for cleansing the body of toxins that have you experiencing digestive issues, weakness, bloating, nausea, mood swings and skin issues.
  • Detox drinks help to boost energy, cleanse the liver, aid weight loss, reduce inflammation and promote skin health.

Got any detox stories to share? Have you tried any of these recipes listed above or have any I should try? Comment below. Thanks for reading! Stay beautiful!

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BINGE-WATCH WORTHY: Netflix Edition

Now that finals are over and summer break has officially started (for me at least), I can get onto endless binge watching of my favorite television shows when I’m not working. Luckily, Netflix has been giving us great shows of their own which I will also cover. Now lets work down this list of my favorite binge-watch worthy tv shows (these are not in any specific order). I’m sure some of these will look familiar…

tv_the_walking_dead_wallpaper1. The Walking Dead (6 seasons)

Based on the comic book series written by Robert Kirkman, this gritty drama portrays life in the weeks and months following a zombie apocalypse. Led by police officer Rick Grimes, his family and a group of other survivors find themselves constantly on the move in search of a safe and secure home. But the pressure each day to stay alive sends many in the group to the deepest depths of human cruelty, and Rick discovers that the overwhelming fear of the survivors can be more deadly than the zombies walking among them.

2I-QZZkR2. The Office / U.S. (9 seasons)

This U.S. adaptation — set at a paper company based in Scranton, Pa. — has a similar documentary style to that of the Ricky Gervais-led British original. It features the Dunder-Mifflin staff, which includes characters based on roles in the British show — and, quite possibly, people with whom you work in your office. There’s Jim, the likable employee who’s a bit of an every man. Jim has a thing for receptionist-turned-sales-rep Pam — because office romances are always a good idea! There’s also Dwight, the co-worker who is successful but devoid of social skills and common sense.

breaking-bad-S5-400x600-compressedV13. Breaking Bad (5 seasons)

Mild-mannered high school chemistry teacher Walter White thinks his life can’t get much worse. His salary barely makes ends meet, a situation not likely to improve once his pregnant wife gives birth, and their teenage son is battling cerebral palsy. But Walter is dumbstruck when he learns he has terminal cancer. Realizing that his illness probably will ruin his family financially, Walter makes a desperate bid to earn as much money as he can in the time he has left by turning an old RV into a meth lab on wheels

how-to-get-away-with-murder4. How To Get Away With Murder (3 seasons)

Annalise Keating (Oscar- and Tony-winning actress Viola Davis), a brilliant, charismatic and seductive professor of defense law, teaches a class called How to Get Away With Murder. Annalise, also a criminal defense attorney, selects a group of students — the best and the brightest — to assist with cases at her firm alongside her employees, the trustworthy and discreet Frank Delfino (Charlie Weber) and Bonnie Winterbottom (“Gilmore Girls” alum Liza Weil), an associate attorney. Mysteries arise that test everyone’s limits and reveal dark truths.

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5. Bob’s Burgers (1 season)

Bob Belcher is a third-generation restaurateur who runs Bob’s Burgers with his loving wife and their three children. Bob believes his burgers speak for themselves and isn’t afraid to offer a variety of off-beat creations. Bob’s wife, Linda, supports his dream but is becoming sick of the slow times, as the restaurant is constantly in danger of going out of business. Despite the challenges, which includes consistent harassment from Linda’s ex — a health inspector — Bob tries to keep the grill sizzling.

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6. Grey’s Anatomy (12 seasons)

The medical drama series focuses on a group of doctors at a hospital in Seattle, including several who began their careers at the facility as interns. One of the doctors and the show’s namesake, Meredith Grey, is the daughter of a famous surgeon. She struggles to maintain relationships with her colleagues, particularly the hospital’s one-time chief of surgery, Richard Webber, due to a pre-existing relationship between them — Webber and Meredith’s mother had a personal relationship when Meredith was young.

American-Horror-Story-Universal-Featured-081720167. American Horror Story (5 seasons)

“American Horror Story” was created by the co-creators of “Glee,” but the shows have little in common besides that. The show revolves around the Harmons, a family of three, who move from Boston to Los Angeles in order to reconcile past anguish. What the Harmons don’t know is that the house they’ve moved into is haunted. But it’s not haunted by Casperesque friendly ghosts — it’s haunted by demonic creatures. The creatures have a history of not only spooking the house’s residents but also devouring them. After living in this house, family patriarch and psychiatrist, Ben, may need a shrink of his own.

americandad-default-nologo-800x450-800x450_0623201404148. American Dad (8 seasons)
Stan Smith is a CIA agent painfully dedicated to homeland security. His home life includes doting wife Francine, a ditzy housewife, liberal daughter Hayley and socially awkward teenaged son Steve. Also living in the family’s Langley Falls, Va., home are Klaus, a goldfish with the brain of an East German Olympic ski jumper, and Roger, an escaped alien from Area 51, who Stan houses in defiance of his employer due to owing Roger a “life debt.” Sounds just like the typical American family, right? Maybe not.
Shamelessseasonįposter9. Shameless / U.S. (6 seasons)

Oscar-nominated actor William H. Macy stars as Frank Gallagher, a single father of six who spends much of his free time drinking at bars. The Gallagher children — led by oldest daughter Fiona (Emmy Rossum), who takes on much of the child-rearing responsibility due to her mother’s absence — manage to raise themselves in spite of Frank’s lack of parenting and unusual parenting style when he does choose to act like a father. The drama is an adaptation of the BAFTA Award-winning British show of the same name.

304160pretty-little-liars_300x40010. Pretty Little Liars (6 seasons)
As time has passed since Alison, then the queen bee of the bunch, went missing. Spencer, Aria, Hanna and Emily have gone on with their lives, though they’ve grown apart. As the years go by, each girl finds herself facing a new set of challenges when anonymous text messages from “A” threaten to expose all their secrets — both old secrets the girls were sure only Alison knew, and newer secrets developed after Alison’s disappearance. Who is “A” and how does he or she know the things he or she knows? Based on the series of novels by Sara Shepard.
1200x627-Q80_0ad7cbf69ffbcdc6f079fa324d12396011. Scandal (5 seasons)
“Grey’s Anatomy” creator Shonda Rhimes is the creative mind behind this ABC drama. Olivia Pope, a former media consultant to the president, is ready to move on with her life and opens her own crisis-management firm, but she can’t seem to shake ties with her past. Olivia’s staff includes Quinn Perkins, who has a complicated history, and hacker extraordinaire Huck. As she moves forward it becomes clear that, while her staffers may specialize in cleaning up the lives of other people, they can’t seem to do the same for themselves.
greenleaf12. Greenleaf (1 season)

The Greenleaf family, which runs sprawling Memphis megachurch Calvary Fellowship World Ministries, appears to be a loving and caring clan. Beneath the surface, though, exists scandalous secrets and lies. Greed, adultery and sibling rivalry are among the issues that threaten to test the family’s faith and tear the group apart. The scandalous happenings are uncovered by Grace, the estranged daughter of church leader Bishop James Greenleaf, when she returns home after a 20-year absence. Oprah Winfrey has a regular role on the show as Mavis, Grace’s aunt.

Law & Order: Special Victims Unit13. Law & Order: Special Victim Unit (4 seasons)
Detectives who are part of the NYPD’s Special Victims Unit investigate crimes against the vulnerable. While the focus of other shows in the “Law & Order” franchise is primarily on murder cases, the SVU detectives frequently deal with rape and assault, in which a survivor assists with the investigation. The series cast of veteran actors includes Mariska Hargitay and rapper Ice-T, and occasional crossover episodes feature detectives from other series including editions of the “Law & Order” franchise and as well as “Chicago PD,” another series from the mind of executive producer Dick Wolf.
voo2ut14. That 70’s Show (8 seasons)

Set in the mood ring and polyester era of the 1970s, the series is a retro-hip situation comedy about an eclectic group of friends on the verge of adulthood. They live in the suburbs of Wisconsin, where they yearn for independence amid the growing pains of becoming adults.

 

download15. The Blacklist (3 seasons)

When former government agent and fugitive Raymond “Red” Reddington surrenders to the FBI, he makes them an offer they can’t refuse. On the mysterious condition that he work only with recent Quantico graduate Liz Keen, he agrees to help put away criminals from a list that he compiled, which includes politicians, mobsters, spies and international terrorists — starting with long-thought-dead terrorist Ranko Zamani. As the two pursue their quarry, Red forces the rookie profiler to think like a criminal to see the bigger picture.

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16. Blue Mountain State (3 seasons)

17. Supernatural (11 seasons)

18. Prison Break (4 seasons)

19. Bates Motel (4 seasons)

20. The Vampire Diaries (8 seasons)

21. The 100 (3 seasons)

22. Scream (2 seasons)

23. Weeds (8 seasons)

24. Goosebumps (5 seasons)

26. The Originals (3 seasons)

27. Burn Notice (7 seasons)

28. The Charmicheal Show (2 seasons)

29. Family Guy (14 seasons)

30. The Following (3 seasons)

NETFLIX ORIGINALS

I must say, Netflix has done a hell of a job with their new releases. About a year ago I wouldn’t even give the time of day to their originals. The moment I gave The Stranger Things a try, I was HOOKED. Now, I’m watching almost each and every one of their new releases. Next up on my list: Dear White People.

 1. Dear White People

Students of color navigate the daily slights and slippery politics of life at an Ivy League college that’s not nearly as “post-racial” as it thinks.

2. The Stranger Things

When Joyce’s 12-year-old son, Will, goes missing, she launches a terrifying investigation into his disappearance with local authorities.

3. Chewing Gum

When Tracey’s purity creates problems for Connor in the bedroom, she turns to the internet for answers — and finds a threesome.

4. 13 Reasons Why

As the school mourns the death of Hannah Baker, her friend Clay receives a box of tapes with messages she recorded before she committed suicide. 

5. The OA

A woman missing for seven years turns up at a hospital with strange scars on her back but can’t — or won’t — reveal where she’s been.

6. Narcos

Chilean drug chemist Cockroach brings his product to Colombian smuggler Pablo Escobar. DEA agent Steve Murphy joins the war on drugs in Bogota.

7. Sense 8

From the creators of “The Matrix” and “Babylon 5” comes this series in which eight people can telepathically experience each other’s lives.

8. Making A Murderer

Filmed over 10 years, this real life thriller follows a DNA exoneree who, while exposing police corruption, becomes a suspect in a grisly new crime.

9. BoJack Horseman

A humanoid horse, BoJack Horseman — lost in a sea of self-loathing and booze — decides it’s time for a comeback. Once the star of a ’90s sitcom, in which he was the adoptive father of three orphaned kids (two girls and a boy).

10. Longmire

Longmire patrols the county with a brave face and sense of humor, but deep inside he hides the pain of his wife’s recent death. With the urging of his daughter, Cady, and the help of Vic, a new female deputy, Longmire gains a new appreciation of his job and decides to run for re-election.

11. Black Mirror

This sci-fi anthology series explores a twisted, high-tech near-future where humanity’s greatest innovations and darkest instincts.

12. House of Cards

A ruthless politician will stop at nothing to conquer Washington, D.C., in this Emmy and Gold Globe-winning political drama.

13. Orange Is The New Black
Forced to trade power suits for prison orange, Chapman makes her way through the corrections system and adjusts to life behind bars, making friends with the many eccentric, unusual and unexpected people she meets.
14. The Get Down

Set in the late 1970s, when New York was at the brink of bankruptcy and disco was dying out, the rise of hip-hop is told through the lives, art, music and dance of a group of young people in the South Bronx.

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I hope you like the list! Get your popcorn ready and plan on staying in tonight. Majority of these shows I’ve watched and loved. I’ve gotten most of these suggestions from friends and family and I honestly have no complaints. Got any suggestions for a binge watch? Comment below 😊  Thanks for reading!

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How I Plan to Live Out My 20’s

Before I go onto my spiel, I would like to give homage to the beautiful illustrations in this post. Nicholle is a visual artist/illustrator from Paris, France. Her work is amazing! Check out her work via Instagram [@nichollekobi] or nichollekobi.comimg_4842

PERFECT TIME TO BOSS UP

On April 6, 1997, a QUEEN was born! Now that I can say that I’m officially apart of the dub club, I’ve gotten a stronger urge to go after the things I want. When it comes to my career and education, I want to excel in my college department and also the workplace to the best of my ability.

Education & Career

My college career has been a rollercoaster the past two years. I switched my major twice and through that process I realized what I really loved and wanted to do. I am an aspiring entrepreneur who loves fashion. I love traveling. Why not take those interests and turn it into my career? I want that feeling of loving to work on Mondays and weekends. I want others to feel confident in what they’re wearing. The #1 tip that helped me? DON’T WASTE ANOTHER DOLLAR SITTING IN A BIO CLASS WHEN ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS DRAW OR PAINT. Think about what excites and energizes you, but also keep in mind what you’re good at. If you’re really passionate about what you do, I promise, THE MONEY WILL COME TO YOU.

A few weeks ago, I got offered an amazing position as a stylist and manager for a boutique around my hometown. I could not be more grateful. For years I’ve had a few retail jobs that never really suited my persona but helped me gain the retail and sales experience that I needed to get the position I have now. The pay is amazing, which is a plus. When you’re doing something you love, the amount of money you get payed for it shouldn’t be a qualifier if you stay in the field or not. You’re doing this because YOU love to do it. Nonetheless, don’t settle for less when it comes to how much you charge or get paid – know your worth!img_4832

God has blessed me in abundance! I plan on moving forward from here on out. In 5 years, I want to take my career to New York, then Miami! I want to own my own swim wear line and have many boutiques across the U.S. and hopefully expand. I also want to become an expert in visual merchandising and become the head of that department for a high end fashion brand. By the end of this year, I plan to have 300 followers on this here platform. Blogging has become such a special part of my life and I don’t plan on ever getting rid of it. Remember… the way you think and feel about yourself, including your beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you, determines everything that happens to you.

Physical Wellness

img_4837“If you are working on something that you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. The vision pulls you.” – Steve Jobs

With some of my free time during this semester, I decided to dedicate some time to the gym. It worked for the past few weeks in the beginning, only going two days a week. As the semester went on I found myself becoming lazy and uninterested in the gym and more interested in taking naps! I had to shake this off. So I started giving myself a routine schedule for the gym, which worked out perfectly. It made me more consistent.

Going to the gym made me want to go the extra mile and start eating a bit healthier. Baby steps! I started eating more greens with EVERY meal. I even made time to eat breakfast in the morning, which I never really do because I can’t find the time. I MADE TIME. It’s important to make time for the things you want to do and I promise you it’ll make you feel better about life while you’re also making an effort to have better time management skills. When I work out, I feel rejuvenated. Exercising is probably one of the top stress relievers on my list. And even with eating healthier, its become easier for me to concentrate when studying. I want this aspect of my life to grow in my 20’s. I want to make exercising and eating healthy apart of my everyday life.

Friends, Family, & Relationships

Can I just say that I adore and thank my friends so dearly. If there’s anyone I can count on, it’s them. I never took the saying ‘you meet some of your closest friends in college’ seriously until it actually happened to me. My girls and I are flourishing I tell you! And I couldn’t be more proud. They keep me sane and in check when need be. They’re always there for me whenever I need them and the most supportive people I’ve met yet. We all have different aspirations in life and we’re all reaching our goals at our own pace. In our 20’s, hopefully we can plan some getaways. Get away from our responsibilities for a while and spend more time exploring the world and doing different things. I’ve always wanted to go on a camping trip, bungee jumping, parachuting… the list goes on. I look forward to seeing my friends graduate, build their career, find their soul mates and get married, have children, move into their first home, etc.

Anyone who’s been around my family knows that we are very loving and family oriented. We host a lot of family events like cookouts and get-togethers literally all of the time. My grandpa always says that family is so important and some of the closest relationships you’ll ever have. I hope the generation in my family can keep this alive. The get-togethers, prayer meetings, cookouts, parties… family bonding time is an essential part of my life.

Throughout my 20’s, I don’t plan to look for love but let it find me. I hope to become the person God has destined for me to be so that when the time comes, I’m ready and prepared. img_4833Do I think I’ve already found my soul mate? Possibly. But God’s timing is always better than mine and RIGHT ON TIME. It’s sad to say that most of my heart break has happened before my 20’s but I’m glad that it did. I’m wiser and more aware. I won’t stress or worry because I know that God is preparing this man for the future and saving him just for me. The husband and family will come, but in the meantime my growth as a person will progress. My goals will consistently be accomplished and the glo will continue to manifest!

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But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”

Galations 5:22-23

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15 Things I Learned My Freshman Year of College

Now that I’m wrapping up my second year of college, I’ve come to the conclusion that the preparation for college that I received in high school and even the advice I’ve gotten from college prep programs at the university I attend now (which I love so much) was just one foot step into the door. Nonetheless, as an incoming freshman I did not take any of the advice seriously. Don’t be a dummy like me and not listen! I can say this from personal experience, YOU WILL REAP WHAT YOU SOW. I would go into my story, but that’s another blog post for another day. I’ve learned and matured so much my past two years here and can honestly say that maturity definitely goes hand in hand with listening. Here’s what I’ve learned:

  1. You’ll never regret staying in to study. There are probably six of the SAME parties you could go to every weekend where you’ll see the SAME people, but you really only get one shot at each exam. Not to sound like a mom (I’m about to sound like a mom), but the grades you make freshman year are the most important ones. Your friends might give you a hard time and what not, and going to a party or whatever is more fun than staying in with a stack of textbooks, but you’ll feel so much better later. Trust me!
  2. Don’t buy books from the university! Unless your professor states that that’s the one you need to get. It’s all a scam. Go to the neighborhood bookstore or order on Amazon.com or Chegg.com.
  3.  Hey ladies… here’s one. College boyfriends are sometimes just for the learning experience and won’t actually be anything more than ‘that guy you cuddle with on Saturday nights.’ Haha, you’re probably thinking I’m being dramatic but no, connections like that do exist and aren’t made to go any further.
  4. Here’s actually one thing I didn’t take advantage of: FREE FOOD. How much free food there is at different events all over campus is ridiculous but regardless, take advantage of that shit. Don’t think you’re always going to want to eat dining hall food or have money to spend to eat at fast food restaurants all the time. img_4367
  5. Okay I lied. Here’s another thing I didn’t take advantage of: GO. TO. OFFICE. HOURS. I cannot stress this enough. Even just to say hi, or to mention how much you enjoyed a new book that’s related to the course. Honestly I’m not going there to do all that. I actually need some one-on-one with my professor when I’m stuck in a class, but make an effort. Professors have to be there anyway, you might as well give them someone to talk to.
  6. Take professors, don’t take classes! I had to take a chemistry class my freshman year, mind you I HATE SCIENCE, but I loved it because my professor was so engaging. So I didn’t mind going. Usually when I’m creating my schedule for next semester, I’ll go on ratemyproffesor.com and look up the professors’ name for the classes I have to take and look at their reviews. It helps.
  7. Utilize the gym. Not only is it the only time ever you’ll have free membership, but you will gain the ‘Freshman 15’ no matter how fit you were in high school. 
  8.  You’re starting from scratch, so no one will care that you were top of your class in high school or the weird kid. This is your opportunity to reinvent yourself. 
  9. You might not be best friends forever with your roommate(s), and that’s okay. Most college dorms pair you up with a random roommate or two, and the Hollywood perception is that you guys will end up best friends and spend the rest of your amazing college adventures together. Hahahahaha, NO. Sometimes, but only sometimes, that will happen. But maybe you’re like me and aren’t cool with having a random. Fortunately for me, I already knew or had some type of connection with my roommates from freshman year and we chose to live together. Random or not, you’ll find yourself invading each other’s space from time to time and will soon know if living with them again is the right choice. Ultimately, it will be an experience you don’t forget and don’t regret. Although we do not all live with each other now, we are all still good friends ’till this very day.
  10. If you don’t already like coffee, you will soon. Now if you’re like me, I’m more of a tea/frappe (which if you didn’t know, doesn’t have caffeine)/juice or water drinker way before I’m a coffee drinker. I won’t pick up anything with caffeine unless it’s my only choice. I didn’t start drinking coffee very heavily ’till I had my first 8 AM. Next thing you know, I’m getting a latte before each class before 10 in the morning. This year I’ve actually went down on my coffee intake and simply did two things: A) stop taking 8 AM’s and B) making time for breakfast. 
  11. You might think you know how to study, but you actually have no idea how to study. Memorizing facts from a textbook is not the same as developing complex understandings of topics you’ve probably never heard of. In high school, you probably had a test every week. In college you’ll have about 3 exams that cover about 2-4 chapters each. They’ll also count for so much more of your grade, so there’s added pressure. You’ll soon realize all your studying techniques are garbage, but that’s okay, because you’ll develop new ones. 🙂
  12. That relationship you had while you were in high school.. yeah about that… you won’t know how hard maintaining a long distance relationship is until you’ve gone to college. Especially if he’s/she’s not living in your college town. If you are in the same boat as I was, here’s how to go through that: don’t. If you feel like you cannot trust him/her, begin to become controlling, doubtful & worrisome, or even feel like you need space/want to venture college, do it and let go. Like everybody says, if it is meant for you it’ll always be for you. I’ve lived by this through other situations including this one and can say, it holds 100% truth.
  13. It’s okay to not know what you want to do with your life before going to college. You aren’t the only one. Going to college is honestly the first step. I regret this now, but coming from a family of doctors and lawyers I was heavily influenced into going into the field of physical therapy. I changed my major about two times and soon learned that I wanted absolutely nothing to do with science. In this process, I learned that there were so many freshmen just as lost as me. College is definitely an experience for the books so trust me when I say this – being involved on campus and taking different classes will help dramatically when you don’t know what field you want to venture in. It’s also okay to go to college undecided, which is what I wish I did.
  14. With that being said, BALANCE AND TIME MANAGEMENT IS KEY. Go out with friends, get involved, get a job on campus if you want to! But always make time for studying and other academic responsibilities. Finding the balance between work and play will probably be one of your hardest struggles while in college. 
  15. Go out and get help if you need it. The help will not come to you. Utilize all resources on campus whether it be advising, tutoring, financial situations, etc. My biggest downfall my freshman year was being too scared to ask for help and guidance. The transition from high school to college was a big challenge for me and I promise you it would’ve went 110 times smoother if I’d just ask for help.

That’s all folks! I hope this helped some of you with a billion of questions about freshman year of college. Feel free to ask me anything in the comment section below. Thanks for reading! 💚

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Less is More | Ways to Detox Your Life

Have you ever looked at your life and thought about how you have so much to do yet not enough time? Have you ever seemed unsatisfied even after getting what you want? Or find yourself wanting more? I tend to do this a lot as a college student. Trying to do it all, be it all, and have it all is exhausting. All too often we tend to push ourselves to be the best, and end up realizing that some of the things we want aren’t really that important. Recently, I’ve started reading “Less is More” by Domonique Bertolucci. I encourage you all to read it, but in the mean time here’s some knowledge that I’ve gained and would like to share with you all. ❤️

“Take care of your body. Its the only place you have to live.” – Jim Rohn

Spring Cleaning

You don’t have to wait ’till spring to do some spring cleaning – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. If you’re not careful, toxic people can negatively influence the way you think, feel, and behave.

Toxic People

They can introduce unnecessary stress into your life and cause chaos that will drag you down. Those who waste your time, criticize you all of the time, play victim, and constantly disappoint you… G2G! If you find yourself talking negative about them a lot, blaming them for your behavior, or even feel like they are dwindling your self-esteem… G2G! Oh and also, learn to say no!


Be Present

These two words can make a huge difference in simplifying your life. Living here and now, in the moment, keeps you aware of life, of what is going on around you and within you. It does wonders for your sanity.

  1. Find inner simplicity. I have found that spending a little time with my inner self creates a peaceful simplicity rather than a chaotic confusion. This could be time praying or communing with God, or time spent meditating or journaling or getting to know yourself, or time spent in nature. However you do it, working on your inner self is worth the time.
  2. Develop equanimity. If every little thing that happens to you sends you into anger or stress, your life might never be simple. Learn to detach yourself, and be more at peace.
  3. Free up time. Find ways to free up time for the important stuff. That means eliminating the stuff you don’t like, cutting back on time wasters, and making room for what you want to do.

Learn what “enough” is.

Our materialistic society today is about getting more and more, with no end in sight. Sure, you can get the latest anything. More stuff. But when will you have enough? Most people don’t know, and thus they keep wanting more. We also look at others and wish our life was like theirs. We look at our lives and aren’t satisfied. We sometimes become jealous and start trying to live a life that was not made for us.  It’s a never ending cycle. Get off the cycle by figuring out how much is enough. And then stop when you get there.

  1. Practice moderation. 

    “Nothing is more deliberating than living a life of extremes. If you want to live a long and healthy life, make sure you try a bit of everything and not too much of anything.” – Domonique Bertolucci

  2. Limit your media consumption.  I believe that the media in our lives — TV, radio, Internet, magazines, etc. — can come to dominate our lives. Don’t let it. Take a break. Simplify your life and your information consumption by limiting it. Try a media fast. Turn your phone for a few minutes a day and be present.
  3. Be content. Love your life. Be happy with your growth and where you are now. Appreciate the people God sent you, they are there for a reason.  Don’t look for satisfaction in the way someone else is living their life because their life wasn’t meant for you. Appreciate His blessings because your life could always be worse.

“Happiness, true happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give – pleasure, possessions, power – but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy.” – Dada Vaswani

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