2018, The Year of Sacrifices

First, it will feel like a sacrifice. Then, it will feel like the grind. Then, it will feel like life. Then, it will feel like freedom. 

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So here I am. 10 in the morning, listening to Jhene Aiko’s “You Are Here” in bed, pajamas, bonnet and all. I’ve been thinking about the new year as of late, and I’d love to share with you my final thoughts of 2017.

I felt as if this year was rough, specifically for me because it was my hardest semester in college. Along with the huge load of school work, came a lot of life changing situations. Through it all, I can say there were various emotions I felt harder than ever before — such as loss, confusion, carelessness, and even freedom.

Looking into the new year, I want to see myself prosper and bloom. Now we all know that wanting to succeed is a universal goal for everyone going into the new year. But what is it actually going to take?

Looking back, I’ve always wanted to succeed, but if I really think about it… I always wanted more for myself but didn’t put in the necessary time and attention for it. Thats why I say that 2018 is the year for sacrifice.

First, it will feel like a sacrifice. Then, it will feel like the grind.

I feel this in many ways. One of my goals is to become more dedicated to Youtube. I fell off very bad this year and I want to use my weekends to create content. Now when it comes to weekends, all I want to do is relax.

Ever heard that saying, work now and rest later? I’m young, in my 20’s, and I feel like I should be using my 20’s to my advantage. 10 years from now, I see myself still working hard but already having a solid foundation. And to have that, I need to hustle like never before. As Obama says,

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A lot of it. I want to be able to say that in my 20’s, I DID THAT!! I did the damn thing!

Create a list

One thing I’ve started to do to prepare for the new year is create a list of goals. These goals are long term and short term. These goals include financial, business, education, and personal well-being categories! I’ll share some,

Financial

  • save $30+ a week
  • Pay $10 to my credit card every week
  • save $1000 by the end of the year

One thing I kept in mind is that I have to be realistic. My initial goal was to save 3k. now, knowing my spending habits and just who I am as a person, I knew that that wasn’t going to happen! a thousand a year is reasonable for me because again, I’m in school and I have to pay rent.

Create a goals board

Here’s another idea to go along with your list. Create a goals board. Its very simple and very cheap. Just grab you some sticky notes, a sharpie, and a poster board. Write out your goals on the sticky notes and post them on the poster board. When completed, take the sticky note down and tally your completed goals. By the end of the year, look back and see how many goals you’ve completed!

Leave 2017 behind

You heard me! Those hardships, that awful job, messy situations, backstabbing friends, whatever it is that didn’t make you happy.. leave. it. in. 2017. Choose to flourish, choose to prosper, choose to be the best you in 2018.

One thing I’ve learned in 2017 and am so so so thankful for, is that I realized my worth. If this hasn’t happened for you yet, believe me when I say it’s coming. And on God’s time. Before 2017, I was a wreck. I let certain things affect me and certain people use me. God let a lot of things happen to me, just so that I could get to this point in life now and say this:

That moment you realize your worth, your whole life will change in a positive way. I’ve learned that it is okay to be selfish at times and it is okay to drop whatever or whoever it is that is hindering you from living your best life. You were thinking about others more than yourself, and that was the problem. It is okay to put yourself first. I’ve also realized that it is okay to do things that make you happy! Learn to only care about your opinion only. It’s the only one that matters! When I decided to let those things go and do things that I love, I became a person I was able to love. And THAT became my foundation for everything else I wanted to do in my life.

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A word, by yours truly…

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Finding Yourself and Your Purpose

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Finding Yourself + Your Purpose

Finding yourself is not a walk in the park, and it might take you longer than others to do so and that is completely okay. I really didn’t ‘try’ to find my purpose until I got into college and realized that life is really moving and I eventually have to be going somewhere. Figuring out who we are and what we want out of life can be challenging… especially if at any point you, like me, veered off the course of self-exploration and self-acceptance. Somewhere down the road, expect life to smack you in the face enough times to give you a wakeup call. I could go on and on about what lead me to finding myself and my purpose, but for the sake of this topic I’ll stick to the steps needed in order to do so.

accept yourself, above all else

Forgive yourself. Be kind to yourself. Celebrate your strengths. Remove your inner critic. It always easier said than done, right? I know. But all of these things are so necessary. Sometimes we can be so hard on ourselves that we forget to acknowledge how far we’ve come. Sometimes we try to reach a standard that someone else set for us. These things can be so toxic to your life if you don’t control it.

speak to your best self

Speak to your best self! You know, that boss ass bitch inside you! haha, bring her out and let her reign. Close your eyes and imagine yourself 10 years down the road. Skin glowing, your excelling in your career, you own your own house and car — whatever expectations  you have for yourself, speak them into existence.

be selfish

Find the balance between 50% selflessness, and 50% selfishness. Take your “me” time, know when you need it, and learn how to give it to yourself. I said it once and I’ll say it again, don’t let people manipulate you into thinking you’re being selfish for taking care of yourself. Ever. Figure out what energizes you, what makes you happy, how you connect to yourself. Don’t sacrifice those things – put them first. In the end, you can’t rely on anyone but yourself to bring you true happiness so stop waiting for anything or anyone outside yourself to try and start being the vessel that helps you receive it. Becoming extremely sensitive and selfish with yourself, time, and energy are essential to creating the person you’re meant to be.
do what you love, love what you do
You know that saying, “do what you love and you’ll never hate a Monday”? Sometimes we feel we don’t know what our purpose is when in fact, it’s lingering within us. To start, try everything. Start broad and ask yourself, “What do I want to experience on a daily basis?” It will help point you in the right direction. Be patient. When you find something you love doing, do your research. Find out what jobs are available out there for what you want to do and figure out how you can profit from your passion.
pray
I shared this with my friends a few days ago, and I really wanted to share it with you guys as well.

I’ve been waking up super early than usual since June and I’ve been asking God why. Like I’m talking about 6 AM type of early when I usually wake up say 9-10 AM. Along the way and through prayer, I’ve been asking God to help me walk in His purpose and live the life He wants me to live. Since then every morning I wake up, I get this urge to blog and write. Before I didn’t have time for it because of work, thus I wasn’t able to become consistent. Now I get up every morning and just write. I’m not tired or weary. I have all types of energy to get things done. Long story short, when you ask God for something and you continue to listen to Him and obey His word, He will give you the desires of your heart. Through this God shows me what my purpose is. Now I know what I want to do, is what He called me to do and that makes me happy.

If God woke you up today, that means you’re blessed and your purpose on this Earth isn’t fulfilled yet. Everyday you wake up, you’re one step closer to your dreams. Everything you do today (not tomorrow or the next day) creates your future. Remember that ✨


John 15:16

You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you.

Jeremiah 1:5

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations.


Also, know that you do not have to stick to one thing. You want to be a doctor and a painter, do that. You want to make music and work in retail, do that! You are unlimited. When you find your purpose, you will find happiness and your purpose will become your passion. When you find and accept yourself, you will gain peace and more understanding. Accepting who you are and knowing your values will help you to look at other people as mirrors. Meaning, you will be able to understand others better without having to having shift your mindset to theirs.

I hope these tips were helpful. #LetsChat! Comment below with your answers.

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DOTW | Living an Unfiltered Life

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” – 1 Peter 3:3-4

We live in a filtered world. A world that no longer accepts reality and instead demands that women and men master the charade. We live in a world where people are self-absorbed and self conscious more than anything. We like to play roles that don’t fit who we truly are to match what’s expected of us. We live for pleasing others before ourselves and yearning for acceptance. Think of this question: who are you?

No but really, who are you? The real you — your unapologetic self. The one who is happy with the way he lives and how he views hisself. Did you forget that you were made in God’s image? (Gen. 1:27) If you’re having trouble figuring this out and need guidance, pray this:

Lord, help me live an authentic life. Help me see where my true beauty and worth lie – in being a child of the Most High God. Help me have the unfading beauty of a gentle spirit. Thank you for valuing me so much that you sent Jesus to die for me. Thank you that you take what is broken and ugly in me – my sin – and wash me white as snow. Help me live to glorify you, not myself.

In Jesus’ Name I pray, Amen.

 

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#DOTW | Stuck In The Waiting Place

But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience. Romans 8:25

Recently, I’ve been waiting for God to show up. I’ve got a few things on my list that need to be taken care of. I feel like I’ve been working so hard  and have been so patient that in no time, God will give me what I’ve been praying for. This is a rough place to be in, but patience is truly the key in this process.

When we’re feeling stuck in the waiting place, our society says, “Get out and do something about it.” You’ll be told to smile more, care less, be happy, and think good thoughts.

Good advice, but sometimes change is outside our control. Know that we’re not in charge, yet, GOD GIVES US CONTROL OF WHICH DIRECTION OF LIFE WE WANT TO TAKE.

You’ve probably got a list of things you want to see happen, just like me! Perhaps you are waiting for a job, for healing, for restoration in a relationship, or for wisdom to know where you should go next. Here’s a prayer to help.

Dear Lord, 

I know that I am always wrapped up in to what will happen next.Forgive me for how I have worried about this situation. Forgive me for doubting your love and care in my life. Forgive me for my discontentment as I wait for what happens next. Forgive me for being impatient.

In Jesus name’

Amen.

Although you prayed, know that God is right where you He always said He would be. He’s never left you and He will never forsake me. He hears all of your cries. In fact as David wrote in Psalm 139, He know your thoughts before you even think them. He knows exactly what is happening in your life and what will happen next. All things are in His control and nothing can happen apart from His will. Not a sparrow falls to earth without God willing it to and He know the number of hairs on my head. He is never surprised. Even about the issues in your life today. He know why this is happening and will use it for His glory and your good. ❤️