What My 30 Day Social Media Cleanse Taught Me | Welcome 2018!

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Hi guys! Its been literally, 30 days since I’ve blogged (actually a bit more). Remember when everyone thought the world was going to end in 2012? Who would’ve thought that we would make it to see 2018?? God is extremely merciful and an awesome God. As the year started, I decided to give myself a break from social media so that I can clear my mind and start this year off with a new way of thinking. We all know that social media can be such an influence on our way of thinking and our everyday lives.

It’s Not Easy

First of all, DO NOT think that this challenge was easy for me. As a blogger & beauty influencer, I can tell you right now… it hurt my poor soul to give social media up. I couldn’t post any makeup looks, couldn’t express my thoughts via tweets, couldn’t keep up with my friends’ everyday lives on Snapchat, etc. I can say though, in the beginning I was so determined to do this. The first two weeks weren’t that bad, but as things started to happen in my life, I couldn’t express how I felt like I could before — via the internet.

Use Your Time Wisely

What did I do instead of browsing social media you ask? I read books, played games, hung out with my friends, I even got a chance to plan my entire semester out. I made myself a workout plan, a daily planner, a budget plan, and a business plan. Believe it or not, this helped me realize how much time I ACTUALLY spend on the internet. When I eliminated it completely, I realized how much free time I had to do other things like some of the activities I listed above. Even just cherishing those times with those you love without having to reach for your phone.. its a completely different experience.

Jesus Confirmed It!

My relationship with God got so much stronger. I cannot stress this enough. Instead of expressing my thoughts on the internet, I confided in Him. When I talked to God, it was almost like writing in a diary. Whenever I had an idea, I talked to God about it and the next thing I know, He’ll confirm my thoughts. I felt so much pain, sadness, anger, and negative vibes go away after “writing in my diary”. Staying away from the internet in my tough times and just talking to Him gave me so much confidence. It confirmed success over everything I planned to do this year!

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MOVING FORWARD

So moving forward.. what did I gain from this that I can take into the new year? With all of this time on my hands, I was able to plan for my future. As a bit of encouragement, I say this…

“Faith without work, is dead.” – James 2:20

Once God does His part, We must do our part! I hope this post gives you some encouragement on spending more time with God and yourself, and motivates you to focus on your success!

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YAY TO 2K!!!! + GIVEAWAY!

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I just want to say THANK YOU to everyone supporting me! Without the support, I wouldn’t have the strength to keep blogging! It’s been a rough journey. There were definitely moments where I became lazy, didn’t want to get up and blog, or even get out of bed. Yet, God and my support system got me out of that much every single time. You guys inspire me and push me to become better at my craft 🌺

THAT NEW, NEW

More fashion posts are on the way! I’ve been holding back on this category for so long, simply because it is a category I want to really excel in. I want to give you good content, with high quality pictures, with the inside scoop on really good quality brands. I don’t want to hold back on this one.

More advice/self-experience posts coming your way as well. I want to be able to be more open about life and the way it works with you guys. I want all millennial to know that they aren’t alone and that there are people out there going through the same things.

More travel posts are in the looks! I’d give away my first location, but that would spoil the surprise! Sharing my experiences with others has always been a passion of mine. I’d like to do at least two every year (noting this in my goals list).

Since I’m from Cleveland, I also want to give this beautiful place more exposure. I want to give you guys the what’s hot and what’s not around my town! There are so many hidden gems in Cleveland that no one really knows about! I want to interview local businesses in my area and work with local artists, stylists, photographers, etc. Just wait on it.

Luke 12:31

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and He will give you everything you need.

 



GIVEAWAY!!

So as part of my celebration, I want to do a giveaway — my very first one! About a month ago, I did a poll on Twitter asking what should be the prize, and you guys voted for the Alex and Ani gift card! This giveaway will be held on Twitter and here are the rules:

  1. follow @thestyleisland
  2. must reply to the post with your answer
  3. retweet the post

STARTS JUNE 29, 2017 10AM EST

ENDS JULY 12, 2017 12PM EST

USA ONLY

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DOTW | Living an Unfiltered Life

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” – 1 Peter 3:3-4

We live in a filtered world. A world that no longer accepts reality and instead demands that women and men master the charade. We live in a world where people are self-absorbed and self conscious more than anything. We like to play roles that don’t fit who we truly are to match what’s expected of us. We live for pleasing others before ourselves and yearning for acceptance. Think of this question: who are you?

No but really, who are you? The real you — your unapologetic self. The one who is happy with the way he lives and how he views hisself. Did you forget that you were made in God’s image? (Gen. 1:27) If you’re having trouble figuring this out and need guidance, pray this:

Lord, help me live an authentic life. Help me see where my true beauty and worth lie – in being a child of the Most High God. Help me have the unfading beauty of a gentle spirit. Thank you for valuing me so much that you sent Jesus to die for me. Thank you that you take what is broken and ugly in me – my sin – and wash me white as snow. Help me live to glorify you, not myself.

In Jesus’ Name I pray, Amen.

 

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BINGE-WATCH WORTHY: Netflix Edition

Now that finals are over and summer break has officially started (for me at least), I can get onto endless binge watching of my favorite television shows when I’m not working. Luckily, Netflix has been giving us great shows of their own which I will also cover. Now lets work down this list of my favorite binge-watch worthy tv shows (these are not in any specific order). I’m sure some of these will look familiar…

tv_the_walking_dead_wallpaper1. The Walking Dead (6 seasons)

Based on the comic book series written by Robert Kirkman, this gritty drama portrays life in the weeks and months following a zombie apocalypse. Led by police officer Rick Grimes, his family and a group of other survivors find themselves constantly on the move in search of a safe and secure home. But the pressure each day to stay alive sends many in the group to the deepest depths of human cruelty, and Rick discovers that the overwhelming fear of the survivors can be more deadly than the zombies walking among them.

2I-QZZkR2. The Office / U.S. (9 seasons)

This U.S. adaptation — set at a paper company based in Scranton, Pa. — has a similar documentary style to that of the Ricky Gervais-led British original. It features the Dunder-Mifflin staff, which includes characters based on roles in the British show — and, quite possibly, people with whom you work in your office. There’s Jim, the likable employee who’s a bit of an every man. Jim has a thing for receptionist-turned-sales-rep Pam — because office romances are always a good idea! There’s also Dwight, the co-worker who is successful but devoid of social skills and common sense.

breaking-bad-S5-400x600-compressedV13. Breaking Bad (5 seasons)

Mild-mannered high school chemistry teacher Walter White thinks his life can’t get much worse. His salary barely makes ends meet, a situation not likely to improve once his pregnant wife gives birth, and their teenage son is battling cerebral palsy. But Walter is dumbstruck when he learns he has terminal cancer. Realizing that his illness probably will ruin his family financially, Walter makes a desperate bid to earn as much money as he can in the time he has left by turning an old RV into a meth lab on wheels

how-to-get-away-with-murder4. How To Get Away With Murder (3 seasons)

Annalise Keating (Oscar- and Tony-winning actress Viola Davis), a brilliant, charismatic and seductive professor of defense law, teaches a class called How to Get Away With Murder. Annalise, also a criminal defense attorney, selects a group of students — the best and the brightest — to assist with cases at her firm alongside her employees, the trustworthy and discreet Frank Delfino (Charlie Weber) and Bonnie Winterbottom (“Gilmore Girls” alum Liza Weil), an associate attorney. Mysteries arise that test everyone’s limits and reveal dark truths.

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5. Bob’s Burgers (1 season)

Bob Belcher is a third-generation restaurateur who runs Bob’s Burgers with his loving wife and their three children. Bob believes his burgers speak for themselves and isn’t afraid to offer a variety of off-beat creations. Bob’s wife, Linda, supports his dream but is becoming sick of the slow times, as the restaurant is constantly in danger of going out of business. Despite the challenges, which includes consistent harassment from Linda’s ex — a health inspector — Bob tries to keep the grill sizzling.

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6. Grey’s Anatomy (12 seasons)

The medical drama series focuses on a group of doctors at a hospital in Seattle, including several who began their careers at the facility as interns. One of the doctors and the show’s namesake, Meredith Grey, is the daughter of a famous surgeon. She struggles to maintain relationships with her colleagues, particularly the hospital’s one-time chief of surgery, Richard Webber, due to a pre-existing relationship between them — Webber and Meredith’s mother had a personal relationship when Meredith was young.

American-Horror-Story-Universal-Featured-081720167. American Horror Story (5 seasons)

“American Horror Story” was created by the co-creators of “Glee,” but the shows have little in common besides that. The show revolves around the Harmons, a family of three, who move from Boston to Los Angeles in order to reconcile past anguish. What the Harmons don’t know is that the house they’ve moved into is haunted. But it’s not haunted by Casperesque friendly ghosts — it’s haunted by demonic creatures. The creatures have a history of not only spooking the house’s residents but also devouring them. After living in this house, family patriarch and psychiatrist, Ben, may need a shrink of his own.

americandad-default-nologo-800x450-800x450_0623201404148. American Dad (8 seasons)
Stan Smith is a CIA agent painfully dedicated to homeland security. His home life includes doting wife Francine, a ditzy housewife, liberal daughter Hayley and socially awkward teenaged son Steve. Also living in the family’s Langley Falls, Va., home are Klaus, a goldfish with the brain of an East German Olympic ski jumper, and Roger, an escaped alien from Area 51, who Stan houses in defiance of his employer due to owing Roger a “life debt.” Sounds just like the typical American family, right? Maybe not.
Shamelessseasonįposter9. Shameless / U.S. (6 seasons)

Oscar-nominated actor William H. Macy stars as Frank Gallagher, a single father of six who spends much of his free time drinking at bars. The Gallagher children — led by oldest daughter Fiona (Emmy Rossum), who takes on much of the child-rearing responsibility due to her mother’s absence — manage to raise themselves in spite of Frank’s lack of parenting and unusual parenting style when he does choose to act like a father. The drama is an adaptation of the BAFTA Award-winning British show of the same name.

304160pretty-little-liars_300x40010. Pretty Little Liars (6 seasons)
As time has passed since Alison, then the queen bee of the bunch, went missing. Spencer, Aria, Hanna and Emily have gone on with their lives, though they’ve grown apart. As the years go by, each girl finds herself facing a new set of challenges when anonymous text messages from “A” threaten to expose all their secrets — both old secrets the girls were sure only Alison knew, and newer secrets developed after Alison’s disappearance. Who is “A” and how does he or she know the things he or she knows? Based on the series of novels by Sara Shepard.
1200x627-Q80_0ad7cbf69ffbcdc6f079fa324d12396011. Scandal (5 seasons)
“Grey’s Anatomy” creator Shonda Rhimes is the creative mind behind this ABC drama. Olivia Pope, a former media consultant to the president, is ready to move on with her life and opens her own crisis-management firm, but she can’t seem to shake ties with her past. Olivia’s staff includes Quinn Perkins, who has a complicated history, and hacker extraordinaire Huck. As she moves forward it becomes clear that, while her staffers may specialize in cleaning up the lives of other people, they can’t seem to do the same for themselves.
greenleaf12. Greenleaf (1 season)

The Greenleaf family, which runs sprawling Memphis megachurch Calvary Fellowship World Ministries, appears to be a loving and caring clan. Beneath the surface, though, exists scandalous secrets and lies. Greed, adultery and sibling rivalry are among the issues that threaten to test the family’s faith and tear the group apart. The scandalous happenings are uncovered by Grace, the estranged daughter of church leader Bishop James Greenleaf, when she returns home after a 20-year absence. Oprah Winfrey has a regular role on the show as Mavis, Grace’s aunt.

Law & Order: Special Victims Unit13. Law & Order: Special Victim Unit (4 seasons)
Detectives who are part of the NYPD’s Special Victims Unit investigate crimes against the vulnerable. While the focus of other shows in the “Law & Order” franchise is primarily on murder cases, the SVU detectives frequently deal with rape and assault, in which a survivor assists with the investigation. The series cast of veteran actors includes Mariska Hargitay and rapper Ice-T, and occasional crossover episodes feature detectives from other series including editions of the “Law & Order” franchise and as well as “Chicago PD,” another series from the mind of executive producer Dick Wolf.
voo2ut14. That 70’s Show (8 seasons)

Set in the mood ring and polyester era of the 1970s, the series is a retro-hip situation comedy about an eclectic group of friends on the verge of adulthood. They live in the suburbs of Wisconsin, where they yearn for independence amid the growing pains of becoming adults.

 

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When former government agent and fugitive Raymond “Red” Reddington surrenders to the FBI, he makes them an offer they can’t refuse. On the mysterious condition that he work only with recent Quantico graduate Liz Keen, he agrees to help put away criminals from a list that he compiled, which includes politicians, mobsters, spies and international terrorists — starting with long-thought-dead terrorist Ranko Zamani. As the two pursue their quarry, Red forces the rookie profiler to think like a criminal to see the bigger picture.

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16. Blue Mountain State (3 seasons)

17. Supernatural (11 seasons)

18. Prison Break (4 seasons)

19. Bates Motel (4 seasons)

20. The Vampire Diaries (8 seasons)

21. The 100 (3 seasons)

22. Scream (2 seasons)

23. Weeds (8 seasons)

24. Goosebumps (5 seasons)

26. The Originals (3 seasons)

27. Burn Notice (7 seasons)

28. The Charmicheal Show (2 seasons)

29. Family Guy (14 seasons)

30. The Following (3 seasons)

NETFLIX ORIGINALS

I must say, Netflix has done a hell of a job with their new releases. About a year ago I wouldn’t even give the time of day to their originals. The moment I gave The Stranger Things a try, I was HOOKED. Now, I’m watching almost each and every one of their new releases. Next up on my list: Dear White People.

 1. Dear White People

Students of color navigate the daily slights and slippery politics of life at an Ivy League college that’s not nearly as “post-racial” as it thinks.

2. The Stranger Things

When Joyce’s 12-year-old son, Will, goes missing, she launches a terrifying investigation into his disappearance with local authorities.

3. Chewing Gum

When Tracey’s purity creates problems for Connor in the bedroom, she turns to the internet for answers — and finds a threesome.

4. 13 Reasons Why

As the school mourns the death of Hannah Baker, her friend Clay receives a box of tapes with messages she recorded before she committed suicide. 

5. The OA

A woman missing for seven years turns up at a hospital with strange scars on her back but can’t — or won’t — reveal where she’s been.

6. Narcos

Chilean drug chemist Cockroach brings his product to Colombian smuggler Pablo Escobar. DEA agent Steve Murphy joins the war on drugs in Bogota.

7. Sense 8

From the creators of “The Matrix” and “Babylon 5” comes this series in which eight people can telepathically experience each other’s lives.

8. Making A Murderer

Filmed over 10 years, this real life thriller follows a DNA exoneree who, while exposing police corruption, becomes a suspect in a grisly new crime.

9. BoJack Horseman

A humanoid horse, BoJack Horseman — lost in a sea of self-loathing and booze — decides it’s time for a comeback. Once the star of a ’90s sitcom, in which he was the adoptive father of three orphaned kids (two girls and a boy).

10. Longmire

Longmire patrols the county with a brave face and sense of humor, but deep inside he hides the pain of his wife’s recent death. With the urging of his daughter, Cady, and the help of Vic, a new female deputy, Longmire gains a new appreciation of his job and decides to run for re-election.

11. Black Mirror

This sci-fi anthology series explores a twisted, high-tech near-future where humanity’s greatest innovations and darkest instincts.

12. House of Cards

A ruthless politician will stop at nothing to conquer Washington, D.C., in this Emmy and Gold Globe-winning political drama.

13. Orange Is The New Black
Forced to trade power suits for prison orange, Chapman makes her way through the corrections system and adjusts to life behind bars, making friends with the many eccentric, unusual and unexpected people she meets.
14. The Get Down

Set in the late 1970s, when New York was at the brink of bankruptcy and disco was dying out, the rise of hip-hop is told through the lives, art, music and dance of a group of young people in the South Bronx.

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I hope you like the list! Get your popcorn ready and plan on staying in tonight. Majority of these shows I’ve watched and loved. I’ve gotten most of these suggestions from friends and family and I honestly have no complaints. Got any suggestions for a binge watch? Comment below 😊  Thanks for reading!

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How I Plan to Live Out My 20’s

Before I go onto my spiel, I would like to give homage to the beautiful illustrations in this post. Nicholle is a visual artist/illustrator from Paris, France. Her work is amazing! Check out her work via Instagram [@nichollekobi] or nichollekobi.comimg_4842

PERFECT TIME TO BOSS UP

On April 6, 1997, a QUEEN was born! Now that I can say that I’m officially apart of the dub club, I’ve gotten a stronger urge to go after the things I want. When it comes to my career and education, I want to excel in my college department and also the workplace to the best of my ability.

Education & Career

My college career has been a rollercoaster the past two years. I switched my major twice and through that process I realized what I really loved and wanted to do. I am an aspiring entrepreneur who loves fashion. I love traveling. Why not take those interests and turn it into my career? I want that feeling of loving to work on Mondays and weekends. I want others to feel confident in what they’re wearing. The #1 tip that helped me? DON’T WASTE ANOTHER DOLLAR SITTING IN A BIO CLASS WHEN ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS DRAW OR PAINT. Think about what excites and energizes you, but also keep in mind what you’re good at. If you’re really passionate about what you do, I promise, THE MONEY WILL COME TO YOU.

A few weeks ago, I got offered an amazing position as a stylist and manager for a boutique around my hometown. I could not be more grateful. For years I’ve had a few retail jobs that never really suited my persona but helped me gain the retail and sales experience that I needed to get the position I have now. The pay is amazing, which is a plus. When you’re doing something you love, the amount of money you get payed for it shouldn’t be a qualifier if you stay in the field or not. You’re doing this because YOU love to do it. Nonetheless, don’t settle for less when it comes to how much you charge or get paid – know your worth!img_4832

God has blessed me in abundance! I plan on moving forward from here on out. In 5 years, I want to take my career to New York, then Miami! I want to own my own swim wear line and have many boutiques across the U.S. and hopefully expand. I also want to become an expert in visual merchandising and become the head of that department for a high end fashion brand. By the end of this year, I plan to have 300 followers on this here platform. Blogging has become such a special part of my life and I don’t plan on ever getting rid of it. Remember… the way you think and feel about yourself, including your beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you, determines everything that happens to you.

Physical Wellness

img_4837“If you are working on something that you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. The vision pulls you.” – Steve Jobs

With some of my free time during this semester, I decided to dedicate some time to the gym. It worked for the past few weeks in the beginning, only going two days a week. As the semester went on I found myself becoming lazy and uninterested in the gym and more interested in taking naps! I had to shake this off. So I started giving myself a routine schedule for the gym, which worked out perfectly. It made me more consistent.

Going to the gym made me want to go the extra mile and start eating a bit healthier. Baby steps! I started eating more greens with EVERY meal. I even made time to eat breakfast in the morning, which I never really do because I can’t find the time. I MADE TIME. It’s important to make time for the things you want to do and I promise you it’ll make you feel better about life while you’re also making an effort to have better time management skills. When I work out, I feel rejuvenated. Exercising is probably one of the top stress relievers on my list. And even with eating healthier, its become easier for me to concentrate when studying. I want this aspect of my life to grow in my 20’s. I want to make exercising and eating healthy apart of my everyday life.

Friends, Family, & Relationships

Can I just say that I adore and thank my friends so dearly. If there’s anyone I can count on, it’s them. I never took the saying ‘you meet some of your closest friends in college’ seriously until it actually happened to me. My girls and I are flourishing I tell you! And I couldn’t be more proud. They keep me sane and in check when need be. They’re always there for me whenever I need them and the most supportive people I’ve met yet. We all have different aspirations in life and we’re all reaching our goals at our own pace. In our 20’s, hopefully we can plan some getaways. Get away from our responsibilities for a while and spend more time exploring the world and doing different things. I’ve always wanted to go on a camping trip, bungee jumping, parachuting… the list goes on. I look forward to seeing my friends graduate, build their career, find their soul mates and get married, have children, move into their first home, etc.

Anyone who’s been around my family knows that we are very loving and family oriented. We host a lot of family events like cookouts and get-togethers literally all of the time. My grandpa always says that family is so important and some of the closest relationships you’ll ever have. I hope the generation in my family can keep this alive. The get-togethers, prayer meetings, cookouts, parties… family bonding time is an essential part of my life.

Throughout my 20’s, I don’t plan to look for love but let it find me. I hope to become the person God has destined for me to be so that when the time comes, I’m ready and prepared. img_4833Do I think I’ve already found my soul mate? Possibly. But God’s timing is always better than mine and RIGHT ON TIME. It’s sad to say that most of my heart break has happened before my 20’s but I’m glad that it did. I’m wiser and more aware. I won’t stress or worry because I know that God is preparing this man for the future and saving him just for me. The husband and family will come, but in the meantime my growth as a person will progress. My goals will consistently be accomplished and the glo will continue to manifest!

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But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”

Galations 5:22-23

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Less is More | Ways to Detox Your Life

Have you ever looked at your life and thought about how you have so much to do yet not enough time? Have you ever seemed unsatisfied even after getting what you want? Or find yourself wanting more? I tend to do this a lot as a college student. Trying to do it all, be it all, and have it all is exhausting. All too often we tend to push ourselves to be the best, and end up realizing that some of the things we want aren’t really that important. Recently, I’ve started reading “Less is More” by Domonique Bertolucci. I encourage you all to read it, but in the mean time here’s some knowledge that I’ve gained and would like to share with you all. ❤️

“Take care of your body. Its the only place you have to live.” – Jim Rohn

Spring Cleaning

You don’t have to wait ’till spring to do some spring cleaning – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. If you’re not careful, toxic people can negatively influence the way you think, feel, and behave.

Toxic People

They can introduce unnecessary stress into your life and cause chaos that will drag you down. Those who waste your time, criticize you all of the time, play victim, and constantly disappoint you… G2G! If you find yourself talking negative about them a lot, blaming them for your behavior, or even feel like they are dwindling your self-esteem… G2G! Oh and also, learn to say no!


Be Present

These two words can make a huge difference in simplifying your life. Living here and now, in the moment, keeps you aware of life, of what is going on around you and within you. It does wonders for your sanity.

  1. Find inner simplicity. I have found that spending a little time with my inner self creates a peaceful simplicity rather than a chaotic confusion. This could be time praying or communing with God, or time spent meditating or journaling or getting to know yourself, or time spent in nature. However you do it, working on your inner self is worth the time.
  2. Develop equanimity. If every little thing that happens to you sends you into anger or stress, your life might never be simple. Learn to detach yourself, and be more at peace.
  3. Free up time. Find ways to free up time for the important stuff. That means eliminating the stuff you don’t like, cutting back on time wasters, and making room for what you want to do.

Learn what “enough” is.

Our materialistic society today is about getting more and more, with no end in sight. Sure, you can get the latest anything. More stuff. But when will you have enough? Most people don’t know, and thus they keep wanting more. We also look at others and wish our life was like theirs. We look at our lives and aren’t satisfied. We sometimes become jealous and start trying to live a life that was not made for us.  It’s a never ending cycle. Get off the cycle by figuring out how much is enough. And then stop when you get there.

  1. Practice moderation. 

    “Nothing is more deliberating than living a life of extremes. If you want to live a long and healthy life, make sure you try a bit of everything and not too much of anything.” – Domonique Bertolucci

  2. Limit your media consumption.  I believe that the media in our lives — TV, radio, Internet, magazines, etc. — can come to dominate our lives. Don’t let it. Take a break. Simplify your life and your information consumption by limiting it. Try a media fast. Turn your phone for a few minutes a day and be present.
  3. Be content. Love your life. Be happy with your growth and where you are now. Appreciate the people God sent you, they are there for a reason.  Don’t look for satisfaction in the way someone else is living their life because their life wasn’t meant for you. Appreciate His blessings because your life could always be worse.

“Happiness, true happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give – pleasure, possessions, power – but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy.” – Dada Vaswani

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